"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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C&F...again! Can my image be restored?

j8snx1

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I read your feedbacks from my last entry about going overboard with the C&F...and it suddenly hit me; if I DID go overboard, I'm pretty sure I have scarred my image to at least a certain degree.

The thing is, I really do believe that DJ/SoSuave stuff boosted my confidence SKY HIGH compared to my other 3 years in high school. 3 years of AFC, one last year as a senior to practice and pull it off! Knowing that I have the confidence, I know I can continue to refine it and build up on it so approaching will be easy as breathing.

But, because it took me a while to realize that I go overboard with the C&F...my image as the confident/funny guy may have been scarred. I think it's because I was so eager to try out these new stuff that I learn from the forums and sites. I blindly believed that using C&F would help WITH NO STRINGS ATTACHED, but I learned this the hard way. On the other hand, I believe that I am able to naturally conjure up some C&F based on the current situation or based on who I am talking with, and what we are talking about. :up:

Now, the question is this:

For the ladies that may think that I'm just a jackass, how could I patch things up? From my last entry, I said that some of the girls gave me a weird look + smile, and sometimes the girl(s) get slightly quiet. SO what must I do to fix and clean up my image? Do I still continue the C&F but on a lighter degree?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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AC/DC

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NO MORE C+F. You're making an ass of yourself.

Just stop, and when you talk, be nice and friendly and brief.
 

CrazyAsianBiker

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^^^^^

Basically summed it up.

Seems like you have a looooong ways to go though.

Don't focus too much on "techniques"

I know how it's really hard to explain this though as I didn't get it for a really long time either. One month you'll just stop thinking about it, and you'll be able to spot things naturally.

Don't use rinse and repeat things.

Don't worry too much about how you are being, yet realize your mistakes when you make them and correct them.

Go with the flow, don't waste time, and don't give a **** all at the same time :).
 

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There's one thing I wish I relized during highschool; after school, you don't have to see any of those guys again. F*ck your reputation there, very soon you'll be out of there & will have figured out so many things through experience. Keep experimenting.
 

dannowillbookem

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Originally posted by Bloke
There's one thing I wish I relized during highschool; after school, you don't have to see any of those guys again. F*ck your reputation there, very soon you'll be out of there & will have figured out so many things through experience. Keep experimenting.
well if thats the right thing to do i'll be a master.

i read this thread and i coulda swore it was started by me. man i went through the same thing. now every girl has those lingering feelings that im an ******* and well often treat me like i dont have feelings, which can hurt for depressive people like me. and alot of guys think im an ass, but thats more because of how nice i am to girls.

i really never thoguht about patching thigns up though.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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