Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Gangster Of Love said:Everyone here rambling about a bunch of drama and getting all moral, yet Kerpal just stated a fact of life.
Everyone has HPV, has had it, or is about to have it; the only way of guaranteeing you wont is if you and your partner have never had sex with anybody else. There is no test for men, and even if there was, MOST people don't show symptoms.
Most people DO NOT develop warts, and most women who test positive for HPV on a pap smear test, eventually clear the virus to the point where it no longer keeps showing up on tests.
If you have had sex with anybody who's not a virgin, or has had sex with somebody else who is not a virgin, then you have been exposed to it and most likely gotten it. MOST WOMEN YOU HAVE SEX WITH HAVE IT, and DON'T KNOW THEY DO. The only reason this one mentioned it to the OP is because she actually knows she has/had it, due to a positive pap smear and/or warts, and actually had the decency to tell you about it, knowing you'd get all judgmental, even though YOU ALSO HAVE/HAD IT AT ONE POINT.
As somebody mentioned already, be glad it wasn't HIV, and more important, what the hell are you putting it in bareback?
There is a lot of good info on this site regarding hpv and other std's. Here's one post to help you relax a little, hopefully, and dude, wrap it, don't be a dumbass!
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Qusstions-for-Dr-HHH-Please---HPV/show/1093766
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
CantTouchMyStyle said::cuss: :cuss: and stuck my **** in your pvssy in the morning bareback.
And Chicks in the Ukraine don't have HPV @ all right Winston?BigJimbo said:HPV laughs in the face of safe sex! Date virgins or face the possibility that your "lesser half" will end up looking like the face of a 14 year old boy with acne. Seriously. HPV is no laughing matter.
The guys who don't think it is a big thing are the same dudes who enjoy thick older females who have kids. They tend to drive compact cars that have tires that are more expensive than the car itself! A good night is a single mother and pot. They like visiting New Orleans and Vegas. Love the bars that i.d. anything under 35. They define America in 2010. Not my style.
Bareback feels so much better.Pimp-sicle said:And who's fault is this????
You make it sound like you brought out an army to fight off her advances to go in raw dog.... hardly the case.
Be smart next time, you'll be fine.
PIMP
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
He got HPV a long time ago, when he started having sex with non-virgins.SharinganUser said:So you got HPV? Almost everyone has it or is going to get it, as has been already stated. A buddy of mine(age 26) is fathering two kids with two different women, neither of whom he is in a relationship with. Think about that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
:crackup: +1ChalengeGuyFan said:Dudes, dudes! Nearly everyone has HPV? Really?
Is this the conclusion of an American doctor who, as a result of his place of belonging, forgets that the world stretches beyond the borders of the US of A?
I recommend setting up a freakin' quarantine over your nation!
you might try it over the entire world.ChalengeGuyFan said:Dudes, dudes! Nearly everyone has HPV? Really?
Is this the conclusion of an American doctor who, as a result of his place of belonging, forgets that the world stretches beyond the borders of the US of A?
I recommend setting up a freakin' quarantine over your nation!
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.