You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Gangster Of Love said:Everyone here rambling about a bunch of drama and getting all moral, yet Kerpal just stated a fact of life.
Everyone has HPV, has had it, or is about to have it; the only way of guaranteeing you wont is if you and your partner have never had sex with anybody else. There is no test for men, and even if there was, MOST people don't show symptoms.
Most people DO NOT develop warts, and most women who test positive for HPV on a pap smear test, eventually clear the virus to the point where it no longer keeps showing up on tests.
If you have had sex with anybody who's not a virgin, or has had sex with somebody else who is not a virgin, then you have been exposed to it and most likely gotten it. MOST WOMEN YOU HAVE SEX WITH HAVE IT, and DON'T KNOW THEY DO. The only reason this one mentioned it to the OP is because she actually knows she has/had it, due to a positive pap smear and/or warts, and actually had the decency to tell you about it, knowing you'd get all judgmental, even though YOU ALSO HAVE/HAD IT AT ONE POINT.
As somebody mentioned already, be glad it wasn't HIV, and more important, what the hell are you putting it in bareback?
There is a lot of good info on this site regarding hpv and other std's. Here's one post to help you relax a little, hopefully, and dude, wrap it, don't be a dumbass!
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Qusstions-for-Dr-HHH-Please---HPV/show/1093766
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
CantTouchMyStyle said::cuss: :cuss: and stuck my **** in your pvssy in the morning bareback.
And Chicks in the Ukraine don't have HPV @ all right Winston?BigJimbo said:HPV laughs in the face of safe sex! Date virgins or face the possibility that your "lesser half" will end up looking like the face of a 14 year old boy with acne. Seriously. HPV is no laughing matter.
The guys who don't think it is a big thing are the same dudes who enjoy thick older females who have kids. They tend to drive compact cars that have tires that are more expensive than the car itself! A good night is a single mother and pot. They like visiting New Orleans and Vegas. Love the bars that i.d. anything under 35. They define America in 2010. Not my style.
Bareback feels so much better.Pimp-sicle said:And who's fault is this????
You make it sound like you brought out an army to fight off her advances to go in raw dog.... hardly the case.
Be smart next time, you'll be fine.
PIMP
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
He got HPV a long time ago, when he started having sex with non-virgins.SharinganUser said:So you got HPV? Almost everyone has it or is going to get it, as has been already stated. A buddy of mine(age 26) is fathering two kids with two different women, neither of whom he is in a relationship with. Think about that.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
:crackup: +1ChalengeGuyFan said:Dudes, dudes! Nearly everyone has HPV? Really?
Is this the conclusion of an American doctor who, as a result of his place of belonging, forgets that the world stretches beyond the borders of the US of A?
I recommend setting up a freakin' quarantine over your nation!
you might try it over the entire world.ChalengeGuyFan said:Dudes, dudes! Nearly everyone has HPV? Really?
Is this the conclusion of an American doctor who, as a result of his place of belonging, forgets that the world stretches beyond the borders of the US of A?
I recommend setting up a freakin' quarantine over your nation!
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.