"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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buying Gf a vibrator?

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so I had an unexpected situation last night, after we had sex, my girl said that it would be fun if I buy her a vibrator for her.

I told her that if she really wanted it, that she could buy it herself, but that I wasnt gonna buy one for her.

she is highly sexual, and wants to try new stuff, but not sure about the vibrator thing.

thoughts?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dear 5String,
"If it has tires on it or bleeds once a month, you'll have trouble with it." That really is rather good....
 

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Scaramouche said:
Dear 5String,
"If it has tires on it or bleeds once a month, you'll have trouble with it." That really is rather good....
Dear Scaramouche

Thank you. I'd buy you a beer if I could.

Salute! :yes:
 

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I was dating this one girl...she had a vibrator she brought over one time to show me. I told her to start playing with it and I just sat there watching like, "holy sh!t". She's like, "Don't just sit there...touch me or something!"

In other words, if you get her one, incorporate it into the lovemaking.
 

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She plays with vibrator while you give her all over body massage with baby oil / massage oil etc.
 

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A lot of guys seem to have a problem with their girl using toys. I can't stress enough how much that stuff can HELP sex, as opposed to hurt. I think some guys let their ego get in the way and consider that as their girl thinking they aren't good enough. Don't think of it that way, it can lead to some great nights...or days...

If you are the one buying it, it will be a great investment...
 

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PDubb75 said:
A lot of guys seem to have a problem with their girl using toys. I can't stress enough how much that stuff can HELP sex, as opposed to hurt. I think some guys let their ego get in the way and consider that as their girl thinking they aren't good enough. Don't think of it that way, it can lead to some great nights...or days...

If you are the one buying it, it will be a great investment...
x2. I have bought one "with" most of my past gfs, and it has always had positive effects. If I were you, I'd go with her to the toy store and help her pick one out.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Rabbits are great, but they are a little advanced. Start with a tiny vibrator that she rubs on her cl!t during sex. Bullets are ok, but the cord is annoying. A vibrator about the size of your little finger that uses one AAA battery is ideal.
 

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I have been down this road so many times. It will only make your sex life better. Get started with a pocket rocket. There are some knock off pocket rocket's out there, try and avoid them and get the original. You WILL want to upgrade later so when you do step up to the Lelo line of products. Lelo is pure quality. They have rechargeable batteries, unlimited settings and are solidly built.
 

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She asked for a vibrator straight after sex? Ouch! Seriously though, good for DP :) besides that, not really necessary unless your girl is having trouble to climax with you.
 

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bugsquish said:
She asked for a vibrator straight after sex? Ouch! Seriously though, good for DP :) besides that, not really necessary unless your girl is having trouble to climax with you.
Agree..... Pipe, her request is your cue for more foreplay, or perhaps working on your "angle of attack" or longevity while doing the deed.
 

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She asked for a vibrator straight after sex? Ouch! Seriously though, good for DP :) besides that, not really necessary unless your girl is having trouble to climax with you.
Couldn't disagree more. My most recent ex would *** and/or squirt 3-5 times 95% of the time we fvcked. I can't think of a single time in 6 years that she didn't at least once. I still can't emphasize enough how much getting some toys made our sex life much more fun.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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PDubb75 said:
Couldn't disagree more. My most recent ex would *** and/or squirt 3-5 times 95% of the time we fvcked. I can't think of a single time in 6 years that she didn't at least once. I still can't emphasize enough how much getting some toys made our sex life much more fun.
Okay maybe I should add ".. or if things are getting boring otherwise." I did experiment with this in previous LTRs and I agree it was a lot of fun at the time. But these days I don't see the point in putting a bit of plastic in between me and the girl. I guess it's personal preference as much as anything.
 

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good responses, In the future I might try buying a small vibrator for her and for us to use as foreplay, (deffinitely not bigger than my wiener) lol.

she likes to try new stuff, yesterday we bought trojans ultra thin, the new ones that are like 40% thinier than the original sensitive ones. those are great! it felt like wearing nothing!.

she loved it, I told her that we can buy the vibrating condoms and the ribbed ones if she wants to try new stuff, but its too soon for a vibrator lol
 

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pipe007 said:
good responses, In the future I might try buying a small vibrator for her and for us to use as foreplay, (deffinitely not bigger than my wiener) lol.

she likes to try new stuff, yesterday we bought trojans ultra thin, the new ones that are like 40% thinier than the original sensitive ones. those are great! it felt like wearing nothing!.

she loved it, I told her that we can buy the vibrating condoms and the ribbed ones if she wants to try new stuff, but its too soon for a vibrator lol
Pipe

Go all the way brother. Get her the rabbit. Way fun to watch her use it and even more fun to do her with it. Trust me.
 

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will look it up 5String!. the rabbit ones, do you know how much they cost?
 

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will look it up 5String!. the rabbit ones, do you know how much they cost?
Bout 110.00 is what I paid. Kinda spendy but well worth it. Just google it. There are many brands but the rabbit drives em crazy! More fun that you and your girl should be allowed to have!!!

She'll get wet the minute she sees it. FR please.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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