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Master Don Juan
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My budget is 30k canadian. Ideas?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Bible_Belt said:I don't know how much of a season you have up there, but motorcycles get great mpg. A 500-600cc bike will get 50+ mpg.
I also was considering that. I have a place and already renting it out. it will be nice to have a 2nd place to rent out. However because I live by myself Its a bit hard to manage it. so thats why i wanted to buy a better fuel economy car instead to save on gas. If i buy a leaf I will save around 2100$/year (civic oil+ gas+maintanance). leaf is $30k but it only drives 130KM in a full battery charge, a little risky because i drive 100KM round trip 18 days/month.....sigh, decisions decisions!!!.prison/con.net said:don't do it. Buy a small, high mileage, 10 year old one, from a private party, 2-3k, after paying a REAL mechanic $200 to REALLY drive it, get it up on a rack, really test it. Put the money you save into an old, large house, in the right area to rent it out as weekly rooms. If you're in the US, find a trustworthy vet to use his VA loan, so you don't have to put up 6k of closing costs and 20% down payment. Such a place, if you live there and manage it yourself, can put up to 30k US in your pocket, after tax, every year. If you can live on something else, that 30k can mean that you can set up another such building. In other words, you can double your income almost every year. Don't wast your money on cars, rent, or mortgage on a normal, single family residence, utilities and the like.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.