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Master Don Juan
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My budget is 30k canadian. Ideas?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Bible_Belt said:I don't know how much of a season you have up there, but motorcycles get great mpg. A 500-600cc bike will get 50+ mpg.
I also was considering that. I have a place and already renting it out. it will be nice to have a 2nd place to rent out. However because I live by myself Its a bit hard to manage it. so thats why i wanted to buy a better fuel economy car instead to save on gas. If i buy a leaf I will save around 2100$/year (civic oil+ gas+maintanance). leaf is $30k but it only drives 130KM in a full battery charge, a little risky because i drive 100KM round trip 18 days/month.....sigh, decisions decisions!!!.prison/con.net said:don't do it. Buy a small, high mileage, 10 year old one, from a private party, 2-3k, after paying a REAL mechanic $200 to REALLY drive it, get it up on a rack, really test it. Put the money you save into an old, large house, in the right area to rent it out as weekly rooms. If you're in the US, find a trustworthy vet to use his VA loan, so you don't have to put up 6k of closing costs and 20% down payment. Such a place, if you live there and manage it yourself, can put up to 30k US in your pocket, after tax, every year. If you can live on something else, that 30k can mean that you can set up another such building. In other words, you can double your income almost every year. Don't wast your money on cars, rent, or mortgage on a normal, single family residence, utilities and the like.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.