"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Buying a Shot!

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So what do you guys think about this.

After talking to a girl for a bit at the bar and she's giving me IOI's I usually say something like this.

Looking in to their eyes and telling them "Your doing a shot with me!"

They usually say something along the lines of

"uhh ok(always seem caught off guard), what are we doing?"

Me: "Don't worry about it you'll like it"

It's always a shot I like, (Crown, Patron, Liquid Cocaine, Blow Job(It's a fun shot to do with girls and opens up the doors for talking dirty)) if they don't like it when they find out what it is, I do their shot and next them(and they come back later).

People always say not to buy a girl a drink, and I think this works because I'm keeping the power and doing a shot of some thing I like because I want to do a shot and she's along for the ride. What do you think?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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umm, I just don't like spending money on other people, or buying attention. Maybe you can get some other people's opinions, tho.

I guess if you bought the first round, maybe she would be inclined to buy another. (I mean, what's the point of just one shot anyway?)
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Spoons said:
...People always say not to buy a girl a drink, and I think this works because I'm keeping the power and doing a shot of some thing I like because I want to do a shot and she's along for the ride. What do you think?
Eh, I'm not sure. I don't get the power thing, what exactly does it get you? And what if she refuses?
 

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Spoons said:
People always say not to buy a girl a drink, and I think this works because I'm keeping the power and doing a shot of some thing I like because I want to do a shot and she's along for the ride. What do you think?
I think youre crazy, but appearently youre a high roller. Buy a girl a drink doesnt give you any power, i think it takes it away...but what do i know.
 

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Resist the matriarchy, man! Don't give someone a gift just because she is female!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I stopped reading when you said you were buying shots at a bar.
 

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don't buy her a shot. Be mysterious and strange and offer her a banana milkshake.. if you know what i mean.
 

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I don't do this all the time, and it was after we where talking for about half an hour. I wasn't buying her a shot so she would of approve of me I was buying her one because I wanted one and she was there. it's all about what frame your doing it in.

Anyways in the end I did get her number(real one), and whe'er hanging out later.

There is a right way and a wrong way to buy a drink, give a complement, and so on. If you do it acting needy, thats the wrong way. When I baught her that shot I could of careed less if she liked me. I did it because I like to do shots with other people and she was already there.

As for being a high roller.. no, just work at the bar and get cheep drinks.
 

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Does this work for you?

In other words, what's your success rate with it? Do you score digits normally or do you end up empty-handed?

You need to just pay attention to the field results here. Most guys around here will instinctively belt out "OMG DON'T BUY GIRLS DRINKS EVER" but there is a time and a place for everything. Govern your actions by the success rate.
 

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I never used it as part of a pick up. I just decided that right then and there where doing shots.

Oh BTY most a girl will say "OK, what are we going to do". KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO DO! Don't say "well what ever you want"! That's indecisive. Tell her what you two are doing, and if she objects i.e. to strong, hates whisky, what ever, and she Say's "well let's do such n such", you have two choices, switch it to something else you want (not what she suggested) or leave her out.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Buying a girl a drink proves you're a speed bag, unless you've spent alot of time with her and you know she's not mooching.
 
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