"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Buying a Shot!

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So what do you guys think about this.

After talking to a girl for a bit at the bar and she's giving me IOI's I usually say something like this.

Looking in to their eyes and telling them "Your doing a shot with me!"

They usually say something along the lines of

"uhh ok(always seem caught off guard), what are we doing?"

Me: "Don't worry about it you'll like it"

It's always a shot I like, (Crown, Patron, Liquid Cocaine, Blow Job(It's a fun shot to do with girls and opens up the doors for talking dirty)) if they don't like it when they find out what it is, I do their shot and next them(and they come back later).

People always say not to buy a girl a drink, and I think this works because I'm keeping the power and doing a shot of some thing I like because I want to do a shot and she's along for the ride. What do you think?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Obsidian

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umm, I just don't like spending money on other people, or buying attention. Maybe you can get some other people's opinions, tho.

I guess if you bought the first round, maybe she would be inclined to buy another. (I mean, what's the point of just one shot anyway?)
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Spoons said:
...People always say not to buy a girl a drink, and I think this works because I'm keeping the power and doing a shot of some thing I like because I want to do a shot and she's along for the ride. What do you think?
Eh, I'm not sure. I don't get the power thing, what exactly does it get you? And what if she refuses?
 

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Spoons said:
People always say not to buy a girl a drink, and I think this works because I'm keeping the power and doing a shot of some thing I like because I want to do a shot and she's along for the ride. What do you think?
I think youre crazy, but appearently youre a high roller. Buy a girl a drink doesnt give you any power, i think it takes it away...but what do i know.
 

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Resist the matriarchy, man! Don't give someone a gift just because she is female!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I stopped reading when you said you were buying shots at a bar.
 

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don't buy her a shot. Be mysterious and strange and offer her a banana milkshake.. if you know what i mean.
 

Spoons

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I don't do this all the time, and it was after we where talking for about half an hour. I wasn't buying her a shot so she would of approve of me I was buying her one because I wanted one and she was there. it's all about what frame your doing it in.

Anyways in the end I did get her number(real one), and whe'er hanging out later.

There is a right way and a wrong way to buy a drink, give a complement, and so on. If you do it acting needy, thats the wrong way. When I baught her that shot I could of careed less if she liked me. I did it because I like to do shots with other people and she was already there.

As for being a high roller.. no, just work at the bar and get cheep drinks.
 

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Does this work for you?

In other words, what's your success rate with it? Do you score digits normally or do you end up empty-handed?

You need to just pay attention to the field results here. Most guys around here will instinctively belt out "OMG DON'T BUY GIRLS DRINKS EVER" but there is a time and a place for everything. Govern your actions by the success rate.
 

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I never used it as part of a pick up. I just decided that right then and there where doing shots.

Oh BTY most a girl will say "OK, what are we going to do". KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO DO! Don't say "well what ever you want"! That's indecisive. Tell her what you two are doing, and if she objects i.e. to strong, hates whisky, what ever, and she Say's "well let's do such n such", you have two choices, switch it to something else you want (not what she suggested) or leave her out.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Buying a girl a drink proves you're a speed bag, unless you've spent alot of time with her and you know she's not mooching.
 
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