"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Buy my plate a gift?

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sazc said:
yep, you get her a gift, any kind of a gift, and shes going to read into that.
Text her a happy birthday and tell her you and she should grab dinner and drinks sometime to celebrate. Don't make a specific date about it in the opening text. if you don't want her to read into it, let her be the one who actually sets the date.
You've acknowledged casually and in a non committal way.

Then take her to a reasonable restaurant ($40-$50 dinner) and some drinks. Then go plate.

Be careful with this one. If she's catching feelings it's not cool to lead her on. That's what ends up damaging females for the next dude.
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This sounds like a good route
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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bigneil said:
Reasonable gifts for birthday of girl you had sex with (choose one).

1) Take her to dinner - search Yelp for top ten restaurants in your area and choose $$ (versus $$$ or $$$$).
2) Bottle of memorable wine (a $20 white - I recommend La Crema Pinot Gris, or a $30+ red - I recommend Cabernet Sauvignon from Napa).
3) A real Silver dollar (costs about $25).

Never give expensive gifts until 6 months or so, and even then, never more than a few hundred IMO.
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Good ideas! Never thought about a silver dollar. How do you explain that to a 20-something? They probably think it's a quarter...

Wine is good too. lots of wine options here in the Bay Area
 
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Roober said:
Good ideas! Never thought about a silver dollar. How do you explain that to a 20-something? They probably think it's a quarter...

Wine is good too. lots of wine options here in the Bay Area
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Tell them that one silver dollar will feed your family for a week during a crisis, and that it's a good luck charm, and that it purifies water.
 
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