"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Buy her Xmas present?

Htienvu

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ok, I know that when you've just met someone it's not advisable to buy flowers, gifts etc... Well, I've been seeing this girl for a month now, intimately for couple of weeks. I haven't got her anything yet, it's been quite even, I've paid for couple dates, she's paid for a couple. I fixed her light switch she cooked for me twice

Xmas is coming up and she's telling me she has something for me tonight as she's treating me sushi, she said it's a xmas present. I feel like I getting something for her in return.

I know I shouldn't ask too much questions and just go with it but what do you guys think?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Alle_Gory

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It would be weird not to get her something. She sounds like a nice girl. I would go with something small and cuetsy that shows more creativity than dollar value.

Stay away from anything expensive. I say under $50, ideally around $30-40.

Sushi ain't cheap.
 

Htienvu

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Alle_Gory said:
It would be weird not to get her something. She sounds like a nice girl. I would go with something small and cuetsy that shows more creativity than dollar value.

Stay away from anything expensive. I say under $50, ideally around $30-40.

Sushi ain't cheap.
You're right about 1 thing, it wasn't cheap. Cost £95 for the meal for two, that's about $150. I want to get her something, this is what I am quite bad at. Getting presents with thoughts and creativity.
 

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You really have to use discression when getting new women a gift. Last year, I was with a woman whom I was seeing for two weeks. I got her a $10 gift. This year I'm with someone I've been seeing for three months. I'm spending no more than $40-$50 on her.

One month isn't very long. I'd put a gift range somewhere between $20-$30 on her. Your gift isn't meant to impress, it's meant to show you're thinking of her this holiday season.
 

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Htienvu said:
You're right about 1 thing, it wasn't cheap. Cost £95 for the meal for two, that's about $150. I want to get her something, this is what I am quite bad at. Getting presents with thoughts and creativity.
No, that's $150/2 = $75.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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