"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"but i don't want you..."

op!le

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Okay. So I probably did something un-DJ, but, yeah, we were talking on the net and she said she wanted this purse really badly and she knows that she shouldn't buy it because that would be too much of buying things since she already bought a lot of things and she knows that she needs to not buy everything she wants. etc.

Me: you want so many things
Me: control your temptations
Her: but look how beautiful that bag is!
Me: look how beautiful i am
Her: but i dont want you.....
Her: lol sorry
Her: that was mean
Me: rofl np

Does that mean she doesn't want me at all? Or I can still work the way of the DJ.

I've only known her for a little over two months now.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Chase12

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stop thinking too much she was prolly messing around.. hell i'd say that to a girl just to fool

only way u can find out if she wants u is making a move
 

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ok a few problems with this

"Me: look how beautiful i am" your begging for a compliment here, your insecure and she can sense it, even over AIM.

And did you really respond to her with "rofl np"? first, toss out the rofl's..your not playing a video game. secondly, dont accept her apology for rejecting you, even if it was just a joke.
 

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Anytime a girl says something like that to me I just say "Well we're going to have to work on that, wont we?" and I just give her a smirk.
 

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what am i suppose to say right after an apology?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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NFC

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Just stay quiet, I think you've already ****ed up.
 

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Yes. She showed me the link. And she couldn't tell if it was really pink or not. And she said she really wanted it when I said it was really pink.
 

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it depends. shes not your gf right? all the gf's i had never said, not even joked the line, "i dont want you". its usually the quite opposite, "i want to hold your heart and keep it safe with me" or "i want to be with you, visit me".

maybe she feels she already "has" you, so she doesnt have to try to "want" you.

take her out to a fun date* (nothing boring and usual, like dinner, movies, coffee, ice cream). one of the girls im with is into photography, so i took her to a park up by the mountains and took pictures of the city, daytime and night time. she has a scrap book now to remember the date. =]

show your alpha-male status, and treat her like a child who wants to have fun (because deep down, thats what most women want).

do everything right, and maybe she might say she wants you in the end.


*in your mind, you can call it a date, but never tell her you consider this a date. make her think this is something your used to.
 

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I see it as either you're just-a-friend status, either that or you're dealing with a female natural who knows the concepts of negs and C&F but just unaware of it all.

Not kidding about the latter situation either. She could be flirting with you. Matter of fact, from the segment of the conversation that you posted it seems like there is a little bit of flirting involved. You were teasing her "you want so many things, control your temptations" and "look how beautiful I am" (except that line was pretty much begging for her to say something along the likes of what she did say).

Don't know, and you'll never know either until you try ;)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ice.

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Oh yeah, NCFs reply was awesome. Assume attraction and flirt back.
 

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Interesting. Thanks for the feedbacks. But yeah..


We already have something planned to do together soon. etc after that.
 
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