"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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op!le

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Okay. So I probably did something un-DJ, but, yeah, we were talking on the net and she said she wanted this purse really badly and she knows that she shouldn't buy it because that would be too much of buying things since she already bought a lot of things and she knows that she needs to not buy everything she wants. etc.

Me: you want so many things
Me: control your temptations
Her: but look how beautiful that bag is!
Me: look how beautiful i am
Her: but i dont want you.....
Her: lol sorry
Her: that was mean
Me: rofl np

Does that mean she doesn't want me at all? Or I can still work the way of the DJ.

I've only known her for a little over two months now.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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stop thinking too much she was prolly messing around.. hell i'd say that to a girl just to fool

only way u can find out if she wants u is making a move
 

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ok a few problems with this

"Me: look how beautiful i am" your begging for a compliment here, your insecure and she can sense it, even over AIM.

And did you really respond to her with "rofl np"? first, toss out the rofl's..your not playing a video game. secondly, dont accept her apology for rejecting you, even if it was just a joke.
 

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Anytime a girl says something like that to me I just say "Well we're going to have to work on that, wont we?" and I just give her a smirk.
 

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what am i suppose to say right after an apology?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just stay quiet, I think you've already ****ed up.
 

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Yes. She showed me the link. And she couldn't tell if it was really pink or not. And she said she really wanted it when I said it was really pink.
 

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it depends. shes not your gf right? all the gf's i had never said, not even joked the line, "i dont want you". its usually the quite opposite, "i want to hold your heart and keep it safe with me" or "i want to be with you, visit me".

maybe she feels she already "has" you, so she doesnt have to try to "want" you.

take her out to a fun date* (nothing boring and usual, like dinner, movies, coffee, ice cream). one of the girls im with is into photography, so i took her to a park up by the mountains and took pictures of the city, daytime and night time. she has a scrap book now to remember the date. =]

show your alpha-male status, and treat her like a child who wants to have fun (because deep down, thats what most women want).

do everything right, and maybe she might say she wants you in the end.


*in your mind, you can call it a date, but never tell her you consider this a date. make her think this is something your used to.
 

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I see it as either you're just-a-friend status, either that or you're dealing with a female natural who knows the concepts of negs and C&F but just unaware of it all.

Not kidding about the latter situation either. She could be flirting with you. Matter of fact, from the segment of the conversation that you posted it seems like there is a little bit of flirting involved. You were teasing her "you want so many things, control your temptations" and "look how beautiful I am" (except that line was pretty much begging for her to say something along the likes of what she did say).

Don't know, and you'll never know either until you try ;)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Oh yeah, NCFs reply was awesome. Assume attraction and flirt back.
 

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Interesting. Thanks for the feedbacks. But yeah..


We already have something planned to do together soon. etc after that.
 
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