"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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BUSY or BULLSH!T???

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This is an age old line that men use. " Am I busy," "I will be busy," " I was busy."

Is busy bullsh!t? If you are really into a girl, is there a busy? If this girl holds your interest, will busy be out the window, and you make the time to see this girl???

More importantaly, if you are into this girl, would you rather spend time with your boys or be with your HB9??
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I think it cuts both ways. Women can brush us off with the "I'm busy" line, too.

I just got the age old rejection from a HB yesterday. Paraphrasing: "I'm sorry I can't go out with you. I am going to be busy for the whole summer."

WTF? Yeah, yeah, I know. NEXT! But for cryin' out loud, I'd like a decent reason, not some BS excuse. Something tells me that I'm not going to get it.

Come to think of it, I got the same rejection line from another girl about a year and a half ago.

In both cases, they both showed some initial interest and eventually flaked out.
 
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For some reason I think that busy is synoymous with bulls!t@!!! I hate that word!!! My guy tells me he is busy and he had some business to take care of!! You know what that turned out to be!!?!?!?! Hangin out at the bar with his FRAT Brothers!!!!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
For some reason I think that busy is synoymous with bulls!t@!!! I hate that word!!! My guy tells me he is busy and he had some business to take care of!! You know what that turned out to be!!?!?!?! Hangin out at the bar with his FRAT Brothers!!!!
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So you want him to be honest with you because it will sound like this " I don't want to hang out with you this week because you are smothering me and I need my space to do my things, when I get horny again I will give you a call"

This kind of brutal honesty is pretty much kills a relationship so he won't say it. Just accept that you are not the centre in your man universe.
 
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Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
For some reason I think that busy is synoymous with bulls!t@!!! I hate that word!!! My guy tells me he is busy and he had some business to take care of!! You know what that turned out to be!!?!?!?! Hangin out at the bar with his FRAT Brothers!!!!
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So, who gives a sh!t ?
 
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OH NOES HE WAS HANGIN WIT HIS FRAT BROTHERS AND HE SAID HE WAS BUSY !! OMG OMG OMG OMFG !!! HOW DARE HE !!!!!!111!!



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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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It all depends on how often u see him.

If you see him everyday for a long period of time and then notice him distancing himself, telling you that he's busy and hanging out with his boys - let him do that! Every person, guy or girl needs space, he can't always be around you. He needs some time to be with his boys, he needs sometime to just be alone and relax u know. If you give him space, and don't complain when he's like that, he'll appreciate you a lot more then if you b!tch and moan.

If you rarely ever see him and he's always busy, or always out with his boys, and you see him once every week and a half or two, then it's time to find yourself another man, cause: 1.) your needs ain't being fullfilled, and 2.) he's prolly seeing other girls and you're just one girl in his rotation.

edit - the vice versa also works for girls.
 
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Would you rather have him boning some other chicks and tell you he's busy ? Although maybe that's exactly what he's doing
 
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I see him once a week!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is nothing!!

I know where he is when he aint with me, it is just the fact that he isn't with me that pisses me off. We have mutual friends, so I know where he is at all times. I just makes me mad that he spends Monday might relaxing, Tuesday at the gym, Wednesday with one group of friends, Thursday with the Frat boys and Friday with the Frat boys, Saturday at Football.....

And, I have to wait until after all this!!! I get the scraps of what is left!! I don't complain and I don't push for more, but now I want to. The semester is over and it is almost summer!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Why the heck does my last post have tYJ as the name!!!!!!!!

Anyway, we were dating for 9 months, we split up and we jsut started talking again about 2 months ago...
 
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Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
You men just don't get it...
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You're a big girl now, so find a forum with GIRLS.
Don't come here asking for advice then insult us.
This is a guy's forum, and you're on a feminazi ego trip.

Now if you excuse me, i'm busy...
 
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Originally posted by TyJ

Monday might relaxing, Tuesday at the gym, Wednesday with one group of friends, Thursday with the Frat boys and Friday with the Frat boys, Saturday at Football.....
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So when does he find time for other chicks ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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