"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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business cards : take them or still ask for a cell?

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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KneghtRyder said:
whats your opinion on business cards?
This is funny you asked that, because Saturday a girl gave me her business card. And I said something like, "I don't normally call people at their work, what's your cell number?" She gave it to me. I would always get the cell number too.
 

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ketostix said:
This is funny you asked that, because Saturday a girl gave me her business card. And I said something like, "I don't normally call people at their work, what's your cell number?" She gave it to me. I would always get the cell number too.
Aye. In agreement. I used to get work #s at first, and they staled quickly. Now its either cell or I TTYL.
 

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business cards sometimes have a cell on them, I think. but yeah, I usually ask specifically for the cell #

In some ways, I guess a non-cell # might be good. Cell phones always have call waiting, and it's usually not a good idea to leave either
1) a voice message or
2) multiple missed calls
on a girl's cell before you've actually gone out with her.
 

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Obsidian said:
business cards sometimes have a cell on them, I think. but yeah, I usually ask specifically for the cell #

In some ways, I guess a non-cell # might be good. Cell phones always have call waiting, and it's usually not a good idea to leave either
1) a voice message
or
2) multiple missed calls
on a girl's cell before you've actually gone out with her.
i always hear conflicting answers on that one. Some people say leave the message, some say dont. Is that a judgement call or what?
 

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well, i haven't really tried it so I don't know from experience, but it seems doubtful that a woman would call you back if you left a message without having gone out with her first

i mean, hell, half the time they don't even call you back if you have gone out with them already
 
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