Hey, has anyone ever tried going out and handing out your business card to like all the hot women you see...real quick like "hey I don't have time to talk now, but I'd like to get to know you, here's my business card." It's probably not real DJ-ish, but if you think about it you could hit up 50+ women in less than 30 minutes at a mall or something. If you have your e-mail and #, I'm sure you'd get some contacts and although it goes against this forum, some women would find it cute and admire that you did that.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Business card approaches
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
The problem with business cards is that some people don't understand what they're supposed to do with a business card. In my line of work, I've often had people hand my card back to me as though the card were my only one. I don't know how many times I've told people that they can keep the card. Although, this might not be a problem in certain circumstances, and may lead to further conversation.
GHardy
Don Juan
That doesn't sound too likely to work ... unless maybe you are something really impressive like a foreign diplomat or a neurosurgeon, but even then, it's kind of a weird way to approach people.
First of all, it's a business card so the woman might be confused about whether you are trying to hit on her or sell her something.
Second of all, by just throwing a business card in someone's hand, you're not giving them much reason to go through the effort call you, unless you are super-hot. And if you were, you wouldn't need to do something like that in the first place. In order for a woman to actually pick up the phone and call you, you're going to need to give her some sort of incentive to want to call you. Some sense of a spark or connection. And you have to look like you are willing to put forth at least a little effort.
Plus, think about it ... if you go to the mall and start handing out business cards left and right, the way people walk around and in and out of stores, chances are that some of the women will see you handing out your card to other women and then you look like a giant douche. And if the woman that sees you do this is the one woman that maybe was considering dropping you a line then you've screwed yourself over.
I think giving a business card is great way to give a woman a way to contact you, if you have a decent job, because it lets her see that you are successful and puts some power into her hands to establish contact. But it's better used in a situation where you've been talking to a woman and there seems to be interest and you break out the business card instead of asking for her phone number. Handing them out like that doesn't seem likely to do much for you.
First of all, it's a business card so the woman might be confused about whether you are trying to hit on her or sell her something.
Second of all, by just throwing a business card in someone's hand, you're not giving them much reason to go through the effort call you, unless you are super-hot. And if you were, you wouldn't need to do something like that in the first place. In order for a woman to actually pick up the phone and call you, you're going to need to give her some sort of incentive to want to call you. Some sense of a spark or connection. And you have to look like you are willing to put forth at least a little effort.
Plus, think about it ... if you go to the mall and start handing out business cards left and right, the way people walk around and in and out of stores, chances are that some of the women will see you handing out your card to other women and then you look like a giant douche. And if the woman that sees you do this is the one woman that maybe was considering dropping you a line then you've screwed yourself over.
I think giving a business card is great way to give a woman a way to contact you, if you have a decent job, because it lets her see that you are successful and puts some power into her hands to establish contact. But it's better used in a situation where you've been talking to a woman and there seems to be interest and you break out the business card instead of asking for her phone number. Handing them out like that doesn't seem likely to do much for you.
Ace_McGregor
Don Juan
No, no, no, no, no, no... don't go around handing your business cards out to women. They will never call. Always ask for their number.
I am telling you this through personal experience as well as everything I read.
I am telling you this through personal experience as well as everything I read.
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I used to do this, and think it's an excellent way to break the ice. If they accept your card, then ASK for their name (BTW: What's your name), then take out another card and write their name on the back of your card, show them card, ask them, is this spelled correctly? They say yes, good. Then go NUMBER. Congratulations - contact close. Call her for a date later.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
I wouldn't hand out business cards to women I just met, however I would (and have) handed out social cards.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Is any gaining of rapport involved or are you just walking up to women and giving them hand spam?Zero Hero said:
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
^ isnt that given?
Handing out BC to women without any rapport would be...well... r*tarded.
Handing out BC to women without any rapport would be...well... r*tarded.
Muzzlehatch
Don Juan
Hi there,
This is something I've been wondering about also. Maybe not in the 'shotgun' fashion you're outlining, but maybe just a sort of 'email' card with my name and email on it instead of asking for a phone number? See, the way I figure it a lot of people can't actually remember their own email address, and bear in mind if you get an email address its got to be dead accurate to work. A lower case instead of upper case, nought instead of zero and forget it.
Email is different to phone in that once an email is sent to you, its socially accepted that you can reciprocate. Somehow its less threatening and 'safer' to send an email than make a phone call.
I guess it would be a kind of 'online game' in reverse, where you meet the woman first, exchange emails, then progress.
If I ever get round to experimenting, I'll post the results!
This is something I've been wondering about also. Maybe not in the 'shotgun' fashion you're outlining, but maybe just a sort of 'email' card with my name and email on it instead of asking for a phone number? See, the way I figure it a lot of people can't actually remember their own email address, and bear in mind if you get an email address its got to be dead accurate to work. A lower case instead of upper case, nought instead of zero and forget it.
Email is different to phone in that once an email is sent to you, its socially accepted that you can reciprocate. Somehow its less threatening and 'safer' to send an email than make a phone call.
I guess it would be a kind of 'online game' in reverse, where you meet the woman first, exchange emails, then progress.
If I ever get round to experimenting, I'll post the results!
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
What do you make of the original post when it was said:Centaurion said:
Makes me wonder.Zero Hero said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Sure, sounds like a great idea. Let us know how the results go.Muzzlehatch said:
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Feel better now? Thanks for proving my point. No wonder you are passing out business cards like a schoolboy passing out notes in class and then running away. Not having the capacity to have an interesting conversation and afraid of rejection, leaving it up to the woman to do the pursuing so he can save his ego. By the way, good screen name, it fits you perfectly.Zero Hero said:
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
Listen.
Here is an outline of a pick up :
1) introduction --> 2) building rapport --> 3) getting contact info --> 4) date --> 5) more rapport --> 6) boinking
Unless you are Brad fvcking Pitt, you can't skip over 2) and go straight to 3). Chicks would be like 'wtf?' if you start handing out BCs left and right within minutes of meeting them. And also who in the hell would hand out BCs with all your business info to chicks they met right off the street? Stupid.
If you want to follow this approach get your self some social cards, with just your name, phone no and email.
Here is an outline of a pick up :
1) introduction --> 2) building rapport --> 3) getting contact info --> 4) date --> 5) more rapport --> 6) boinking
Unless you are Brad fvcking Pitt, you can't skip over 2) and go straight to 3). Chicks would be like 'wtf?' if you start handing out BCs left and right within minutes of meeting them. And also who in the hell would hand out BCs with all your business info to chicks they met right off the street? Stupid.
If you want to follow this approach get your self some social cards, with just your name, phone no and email.
Something sort of on topic, but not really.
My father used to be quite a player, back in the day.
Anyways... he made up cards that said... "Fvck Off, Have a Nice Day!"
... and would give them to any UG's that tried to pick him up, or any b!tch that blew him off.
Like... "Coolcool baby... well if you change your mind, here's my card"
lol
Good Ol' Pops'
My father used to be quite a player, back in the day.
Anyways... he made up cards that said... "Fvck Off, Have a Nice Day!"
... and would give them to any UG's that tried to pick him up, or any b!tch that blew him off.
Like... "Coolcool baby... well if you change your mind, here's my card"
lol
Good Ol' Pops'
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Useless. You have a 1 in 100 chance of getting her to call you back. A better idea is to throw a bash and give out invitations to every girl you see. Works especially well if you live in a trendy, downtown resort area and are within walking distance, and are popular.Zero Hero said:
lolz
i read something like this in some book i was reading, its better to make a card that says "smile if you'll sleep with me" with ure numba on the back and give em a cheesy thumbs up lol theyll laff & smile so ure pretty much in!
i read something like this in some book i was reading, its better to make a card that says "smile if you'll sleep with me" with ure numba on the back and give em a cheesy thumbs up lol theyll laff & smile so ure pretty much in!
~attrACTION~
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Hahahaha! That's priceless! You know if you don't mind I'm going to do that...actually, this seems cool too:DarkLight said:
This thread gave me an idea...not give out business cards, but how about just having "business cards" that say funny stuff...say something funny like the "smile if you'll sleep with me" thing, except you only take it out for her to write her number on, and it's not really something you call attention to.sheep-man said:
Like, she gives you her number, and you give her this "funny card" with your real name but fake/comical credentials...
I'm going to do this.
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