You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I don't think he's stupid. Most men with a semblance of broader thought know fully well any blame for the current climate falls squarely on enabling manginas. The lapdog cronies of femthink.evan12 said:I think he focus of learning how to hate women instead of learning the game. may be he need some rest from reading stories of women ruining men line .
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Having one of those 'outside yourself' experiences?PlayHer Man said:Burroughs is still here, just not posting. He'll usually respond if you PM him.
Like (.)(.) said already.. he was getting a lot of heat from mods because certain sensitive men can't stomach TRUE words. He was hurting feelings. He was making people cry. He was causing sleepless nights. It was too much for the betas.![]()
He'll probably return at some point.
That's a good break down tits magee....and you defended your friend well. Props.( . )( . ) said:I don't think he's stupid. Most men with a semblance of broader thought know fully well any blame for the current climate falls squarely on enabling manginas. The lapdog cronies of femthink.
As a matter of fact I doubt anyone here "hates women" in true Ted Bundy style at all. You wouldn't "hate" a chimpanzee for shooting you. You'd have more anger toward the fvckin idiot who gave a monkey a loaded gun wouldn't you?
Regardless of the way in which it rubbed certain people, he made a lot of valid observations about the female nature. If he got banned because of incessant whining on the part of bisexual Al Shaprton wannabe loveshack transplant or POF ugs connoisseur from California (we all know who I'm talking about) or one of the other blue pill holdouts, it would be a great shame.Peaks&Valleys said:Negativity is not the answer my friend. He may be smart, and have his own views on the world, but the way he states it, is through a negative light that rubs people the wrong way. You know it, I know it, the mods know it....he should know it. What's the deal?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yeah, well, that's just, like, your opinion, man.Peaks&Valleys said:As smart as your friend may be, and as knowledgeable he may be in the ways with women, his posts are dictating a guy that is off his rocker and just out to spew hate.
Ha! You sound like my girlfriend. If grown men discussing how they're governed causes you such distress may I suggest cutting your d!ck off and calling it a day?Peaks&Valleys said:As a DJ you need to be able to control your emotions...and say the right things. Play the politics for the time being.
This place is borderline loveshack-esque as it is and you want a further clamp down on ""HATE SPEECH !!!!!""Peaks&Valleys said:No one wants to hear hate on this forum. We're friends and a brotherhood, we don't want to hear that $hit.
Well apparently it wasn't Burroughs who couldn't handle "some opposition" now was it Sherlock. Keep up.Peaks&Valleys said:EDIT: bring him back, it's a free country, as long as he's willing to handle some opposition....
Nah, there is only one, Snarky.Zarky said:Aw, all the trolls in one thread, how romantic. <3
I don't see why Burroughs should have to sugar coat his words for emotionally frail betas. Why should he have to change for others?Peaks&Valleys said:That's a good break down tits magee....and you defended your friend well. Props.
But I'm sure you understand, as a logical rational human being you have to admit, Burrouggs is at the farthest end of the DJ spectrum.
I recently saw a post from years ago where Burrouggs was commenting on a Zarky thread and he seemed all honky dory...and in agreement with him. Times have obviously changed.
My question, what has happened? Why the constant negativity now??
Negativity is not the answer my friend. He may be smart, and have his own views on the world, but the way he states it, is through a negative light that rubs people the wrong way. You know it, I know it, the mods know it....he should know it. What's the deal?
As a DJ you need to be able to control your emotions...and say the right things. Play the politics for the time being.
As smart as your friend may be, and as knowledgeable he may be in the ways with women, his posts are dictating a guy that is off his rocker and just out to spew hate.
No one wants to hear hate on this forum. We're friends and a brotherhood, we don't want to hear that $hit. We come here for answers, sometimes tough love is what it takes, but rarely. I laugh at it, but with some of these young guys, it could be a different story....
Words are powerful, take heed in what you say, someone may actually listen to them.
EDIT: bring him back, it's a free country, as long as he's willing to handle some opposition....
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.