Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You do fun stuff often, but not all the time. Go out with her, forget about her a little bit, go out with her again. Leave her thinking "how did I do?"Originally posted by Maeisgood
Hard to get
You are supposed to act like you are not interested. It has been said to offically be "going out" you have to do stuff often. How do you do both?
Originally posted by Maeisgood
These "kiss test" things seem like random kissing. The "right moment" seems hard to find. If I randomly kiss her neck, cheek, or lips then she might go "WTF are you doing?!" and then everyone'll find out how I got by butt handed to me AND was vagina-whipped. It would leave a Scarlet-letter scar. It might drive future women away from me. Women spread news like bird flu.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
All of the times I've kissed girls I basically just grabbed my balls (although feeling nervous inside), and did it.Originally posted by Maeisgood
Good points.
It seems hard to live a brash thing like that down and recover.
Does anyone have a story about a successful kiss test and an unsuccessful one?