I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You can get great benefits from doing it for 5 minutes after you lift...researchers found it created huge spikes in Growth Hormone versus people who did no HIIT after lifting. Also properly done Tabata is only 6 minutes long, but might be among the hardest things to actually accomplish in the gym.Most people don't know what intense cardio is. You should be completely gassed, lungs on fire, and near total exertion. Typically it takes sprints, or wrestling. But if you do actual high-intensity cardio, then yes there are a lot of benefits to it. 4-6 hours post-workout, your body will convert even junk carbs to muscle. Most guys I knew from mma were ripped, but ate garbage. I drank a 6-pack of beer every night, and still had very low body fat. I don't know if 15 min is enough, the studies were done on wrestlers who practiced 2 hours, but there are other health benefits to high-intensity cardio as well.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
6 minutes is enough if you do it right. Look up the studies on Tabata.Most people don't know what intense cardio is. You should be completely gassed, lungs on fire, and near total exertion. Typically it takes sprints, or wrestling. But if you do actual high-intensity cardio, then yes there are a lot of benefits to it. 4-6 hours post-workout, your body will convert even junk carbs to muscle. Most guys I knew from mma were ripped, but ate garbage. I drank a 6-pack of beer every night, and still had very low body fat. I don't know if 15 min is enough, the studies were done on wrestlers who practiced 2 hours, but there are other health benefits to high-intensity cardio as well.