"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Warboss Alex

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this_dude_55 said:
That's the one I was planning on going with. Seems better then the one I had. So martial arts out, swimming keep, just got to figure some other cardio exercises.
walking, treadmill, powerwalking, stepmill, elliptical, stationary bike..
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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this_dude_55 said:
That's the one I was planning on going with. Seems better then the one I had. So martial arts out, swimming keep, just got to figure some other cardio exercises.
Its better by a LONG shot man, i can feel the concern coming from you though which is pretty token at this point after writing someone a routine for the first time i usually get a sort of disappointed/concerned/doubtful vibe from them. Most people feel its "not enough work" and still have the understanding that they need to do tons and tons of sets for a routine to be "good". Even though they've previsouly trained with routines like you have posted for years and look like they don't lifts weights (which is sad, lifting hard for years and making no progress)

So all i ask of you is to just believe in it, follow the diet/routine. Don't add anymore sets or reps or exercises or changes fight that urge, and in 10weeks you'll have some nice changes.

also follow the carido i have written out in the routine. Theres no more thinking you need to do as far as the routine/cardio is concerned. The diet needs a little more updating. After that all you need to be thinking about is showing up for every workout and every meal and giving it your all.
 

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EFFORT said:
So all i ask of you is to just believe in it, follow the diet/routine. Don't add anymore sets or reps or exercises or changes fight that urge, and in 10weeks you'll have some nice changes.
dude that's the problem.. (not saying it's with this_dude_55 but in general), trying to convince a guy to try a low volume, power oriented routine.. on paper it doesn't seem much, and lots of guys can't fight the urge to add in a load of burnout/pumper sets.

even worse is a volume guy going on a plifting routine.. he loses the perennial pump he had through his previous 50-set, 8-day-a-week routine, and is convinced he's shrinking (ARGH MY BICEPTS ARE DOWN 1/16th OF AN INCH!!!! OMG!!!!!111) and goes back to his crossovers..
 

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It's funny I never had that problem when taking advice from you. Perhaps I am just a lazy bastar* :D

Who the hell would want to do 20 sets of curls? It is just mind boggling...
 

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EFFORT said:
Its better by a LONG shot man, i can feel the concern coming from you though which is pretty token at this point after writing someone a routine for the first time i usually get a sort of disappointed/concerned/doubtful vibe from them. Most people feel its "not enough work" and still have the understanding that they need to do tons and tons of sets for a routine to be "good". Even though they've previsouly trained with routines like you have posted for years and look like they don't lifts weights (which is sad, lifting hard for years and making no progress)

So all i ask of you is to just believe in it, follow the diet/routine. Don't add anymore sets or reps or exercises or changes fight that urge, and in 10weeks you'll have some nice changes.

also follow the carido i have written out in the routine. Theres no more thinking you need to do as far as the routine/cardio is concerned. The diet needs a little more updating. After that all you need to be thinking about is showing up for every workout and every meal and giving it your all.
I'm sorry. Know you put a lot effort into this. I'm going to throw away any fears or doubts I have, and I'm going to give it 110%. I believe in the routine and know this is the right direction I need to take. Though I DO need to keep swimming. The job I'm currently working to help get myself through college is being a lifeguard. So it's mandatory I swim for my job. Nothing I can do about that, but EVERYTHING else is according to your diet/routine plan. Not changing a thing at all. I really do appreciate all the help! Thanks!!!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Finishing the last week of full body workout I've been doing. i'm going to get started on the routine from EFFORT next week. Also, going to go over proper form Saurday afternoon. Just so I have that right.
 

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Also, going to go over proper form Saurday afternoon. Just so I have that right.

Thats really smart of you to do. If possible find a powerlifting gym and have them help you with your form. Also when you start take it really easy and slow, with the sets that say max beside them follow the warm up thing i sent you and work up to a heavy 5 or triple (whatever is listed) but don't hit a full out max just yet.
 

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EFFORT said:
Thats really smart of you to do. If possible find a powerlifting gym and have them help you with your form. Also when you start take it really easy and slow, with the sets that say max beside them follow the warm up thing i sent you and work up to a heavy 5 or triple (whatever is listed) but don't hit a full out max just yet.
Okay. Sounds good.
 

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Here was my stats from my workout on Monday:

Dumbbell Situps - 3x6 @ 10lbs.

Decline Bench - 1x5 @ 100 lbs. & Max @ 110lbs.

Skull Crusher - 2x8 @ 45lbs.

Flat Dumbell Bench - 3x8 @ 50lbs.

Lateral Raise - 3x10 @ 10lbs.
 

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good start, post your warm up sets for now too so we can make sure everything is right.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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this_dude_55 said:
Here was my stats from my workout on Monday:

Dumbbell Situps - 3x6 @ 10lbs.

Decline Bench - 1x5 @ 100 lbs. & Max @ 110lbs.

Skull Crusher - 2x8 @ 45lbs.

Flat Dumbell Bench - 3x8 @ 50lbs.

Lateral Raise - 3x10 @ 10lbs.
Routine looks solid. :D Must be one of EFFORT's. :D

Stick with it for a while and you'll love the results
 
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