"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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this_dude_55 said:
That's the one I was planning on going with. Seems better then the one I had. So martial arts out, swimming keep, just got to figure some other cardio exercises.
walking, treadmill, powerwalking, stepmill, elliptical, stationary bike..
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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this_dude_55 said:
That's the one I was planning on going with. Seems better then the one I had. So martial arts out, swimming keep, just got to figure some other cardio exercises.
Its better by a LONG shot man, i can feel the concern coming from you though which is pretty token at this point after writing someone a routine for the first time i usually get a sort of disappointed/concerned/doubtful vibe from them. Most people feel its "not enough work" and still have the understanding that they need to do tons and tons of sets for a routine to be "good". Even though they've previsouly trained with routines like you have posted for years and look like they don't lifts weights (which is sad, lifting hard for years and making no progress)

So all i ask of you is to just believe in it, follow the diet/routine. Don't add anymore sets or reps or exercises or changes fight that urge, and in 10weeks you'll have some nice changes.

also follow the carido i have written out in the routine. Theres no more thinking you need to do as far as the routine/cardio is concerned. The diet needs a little more updating. After that all you need to be thinking about is showing up for every workout and every meal and giving it your all.
 

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So all i ask of you is to just believe in it, follow the diet/routine. Don't add anymore sets or reps or exercises or changes fight that urge, and in 10weeks you'll have some nice changes.
dude that's the problem.. (not saying it's with this_dude_55 but in general), trying to convince a guy to try a low volume, power oriented routine.. on paper it doesn't seem much, and lots of guys can't fight the urge to add in a load of burnout/pumper sets.

even worse is a volume guy going on a plifting routine.. he loses the perennial pump he had through his previous 50-set, 8-day-a-week routine, and is convinced he's shrinking (ARGH MY BICEPTS ARE DOWN 1/16th OF AN INCH!!!! OMG!!!!!111) and goes back to his crossovers..
 

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It's funny I never had that problem when taking advice from you. Perhaps I am just a lazy bastar* :D

Who the hell would want to do 20 sets of curls? It is just mind boggling...
 

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EFFORT said:
Its better by a LONG shot man, i can feel the concern coming from you though which is pretty token at this point after writing someone a routine for the first time i usually get a sort of disappointed/concerned/doubtful vibe from them. Most people feel its "not enough work" and still have the understanding that they need to do tons and tons of sets for a routine to be "good". Even though they've previsouly trained with routines like you have posted for years and look like they don't lifts weights (which is sad, lifting hard for years and making no progress)

So all i ask of you is to just believe in it, follow the diet/routine. Don't add anymore sets or reps or exercises or changes fight that urge, and in 10weeks you'll have some nice changes.

also follow the carido i have written out in the routine. Theres no more thinking you need to do as far as the routine/cardio is concerned. The diet needs a little more updating. After that all you need to be thinking about is showing up for every workout and every meal and giving it your all.
I'm sorry. Know you put a lot effort into this. I'm going to throw away any fears or doubts I have, and I'm going to give it 110%. I believe in the routine and know this is the right direction I need to take. Though I DO need to keep swimming. The job I'm currently working to help get myself through college is being a lifeguard. So it's mandatory I swim for my job. Nothing I can do about that, but EVERYTHING else is according to your diet/routine plan. Not changing a thing at all. I really do appreciate all the help! Thanks!!!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Finishing the last week of full body workout I've been doing. i'm going to get started on the routine from EFFORT next week. Also, going to go over proper form Saurday afternoon. Just so I have that right.
 

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Also, going to go over proper form Saurday afternoon. Just so I have that right.

Thats really smart of you to do. If possible find a powerlifting gym and have them help you with your form. Also when you start take it really easy and slow, with the sets that say max beside them follow the warm up thing i sent you and work up to a heavy 5 or triple (whatever is listed) but don't hit a full out max just yet.
 

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EFFORT said:
Thats really smart of you to do. If possible find a powerlifting gym and have them help you with your form. Also when you start take it really easy and slow, with the sets that say max beside them follow the warm up thing i sent you and work up to a heavy 5 or triple (whatever is listed) but don't hit a full out max just yet.
Okay. Sounds good.
 

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Here was my stats from my workout on Monday:

Dumbbell Situps - 3x6 @ 10lbs.

Decline Bench - 1x5 @ 100 lbs. & Max @ 110lbs.

Skull Crusher - 2x8 @ 45lbs.

Flat Dumbell Bench - 3x8 @ 50lbs.

Lateral Raise - 3x10 @ 10lbs.
 

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good start, post your warm up sets for now too so we can make sure everything is right.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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this_dude_55 said:
Here was my stats from my workout on Monday:

Dumbbell Situps - 3x6 @ 10lbs.

Decline Bench - 1x5 @ 100 lbs. & Max @ 110lbs.

Skull Crusher - 2x8 @ 45lbs.

Flat Dumbell Bench - 3x8 @ 50lbs.

Lateral Raise - 3x10 @ 10lbs.
Routine looks solid. :D Must be one of EFFORT's. :D

Stick with it for a while and you'll love the results
 
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