"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bulk or Cut first?

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I am around 5'10 206 pounds, mildly overweight, soft.

I am about to change my physique but I am not sure whether to cut up first or start getting more mass.

I am wide, kinda stocky, so I am thinking Cutting up first since I will look better faster.

Any thoughts?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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IMHO go on a cut. So then when you start bulking you'll have a lean base to work with and bodyfat won't be a huge factor.
 

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Cut first. If you're new to weightlifting you'll probably add a little muscle in the process too.
 

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5'10 206 is pretty big. I would suggest cutting down first, but not overly quickly so u can try to keep muscle mass as u do it
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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As a bodybuilding "noob" you don't need to be as concerned with bulking and cutting cycles. Lift heavy, do some cardio, and have an ultra clean diet. You will lose fat AND gain muscle at the same time, I promise.

Have your caloric intake be only slightly lower than your caloric output (probably 300-500/day) and you'll be on your way. Stick with whole foods like oatmeal, brown rice, vegetables, fruits, and lean meats.

A friend of mine went from a soft 215 to a cut and much stronger 180 in about 3-4 months. He gained some noticeable muscle too (I imagine around 7-10lbs) so his overall fat loss was closer to 30 pounds.

Only when you really start tapping into your body's potential should you be concerned about bulking and cutting.
 

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SynTheUnscathed you sound about like me. I'm 5'9, 190lbs and I'm kind of in the same boat.

But yeah, I'm going to start with the cutting program in a few weeks, when work settles down (working 16hr days right now.)
 

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Originally posted by ghostin
5'10 206 is pretty big. I would suggest cutting down first, but not overly quickly so u can try to keep muscle mass as u do it

Nah, I aint that big, I just have really dense muscles. Mostly in my butt, legs. I can actually see my abs and obliques now, it just is blurry, and not sharp and defined.

I just got this Ebook, Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle...and it is the most comprehensive thing I have ever read. Starting it as soon as I get some money to get my right foods.
 

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Yeah, I can see them. But they arent ripped....that doesnt make sense?


I am not overweight...to most people...to me I am though because I am not lean as I want to be. Most people would not consider me overweight...but of course I am very hard on myself.:(
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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bulk bulk bulk bulk bulk why cut fat into nothing.. use that potential energy contained in your fat to pack on a ton of muscle first... i dont understand why everyone wants to cut into nothing... hes not overweight by any means... put on some muscle first
 

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yeah, but what if you bulk, then cut, and you find out you're more muscled up than you like?

you might cut and then decide "i like the way i look right now" and not need to bulk again.
 

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Originally posted by SynTheUnscathed

I just got this Ebook, Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle...and it is the most comprehensive thing I have ever read. Starting it as soon as I get some money to get my right foods.
I just got it a couple of days ago, and I'm really enjoying it so far. I have trouble reading it though, my attention span is pretty short with eBooks.
....Hey, how bout them Lakers?
 

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Originally posted by reyalp
I just got it a couple of days ago, and I'm really enjoying it so far. I have trouble reading it though, my attention span is pretty short with eBooks.
....Hey, how bout them Lakers?
Yeah, at first its a tiring read. Get down to the last few chapters and thats what you need. How to set up your meals. Exactly what foods to eat at what times. The best way to do Cardio. And the Weightlighting programs.


Of course, the diet is the most important part of any lean lifestyle.

DO EET! I am. I am gonna post some pictures of my body now. and in 3 months.



When I get a camera...
 

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Hey I just got BFFM too!!!

I'm starting the program on the 1st of March and I have to be back in the gym by June....

I'm about 20 lbs overweight.....6'4" about 220 ( have to buy a scale though to be sure)

I'm gonna totally cut first then try to build from their. I'd rather see the fat go first then try to build muscle under the fat.


I was 12% body fat in High School.....I'm workin my way to 9%


I also just started to organize some recipes for the program if you want I can send you a couple......



:rockon:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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El MonoLoco said:
Hey I just got BFFM too!!!

I'm starting the program on the 1st of March and I have to be back in the gym by June....

I'm about 20 lbs overweight.....6'4" about 220 ( have to buy a scale though to be sure)

I'm gonna totally cut first then try to build from their. I'd rather see the fat go first then try to build muscle under the fat.


I was 12% body fat in High School.....I'm workin my way to 9%


I also just started to organize some recipes for the program if you want I can send you a couple......



:rockon:

Heck yeah man, send away.:up:
 
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