"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bulk or Cut first?

SynTheUnscathed

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I am around 5'10 206 pounds, mildly overweight, soft.

I am about to change my physique but I am not sure whether to cut up first or start getting more mass.

I am wide, kinda stocky, so I am thinking Cutting up first since I will look better faster.

Any thoughts?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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[S]alvatore

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IMHO go on a cut. So then when you start bulking you'll have a lean base to work with and bodyfat won't be a huge factor.
 

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Cut first. If you're new to weightlifting you'll probably add a little muscle in the process too.
 

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5'10 206 is pretty big. I would suggest cutting down first, but not overly quickly so u can try to keep muscle mass as u do it
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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As a bodybuilding "noob" you don't need to be as concerned with bulking and cutting cycles. Lift heavy, do some cardio, and have an ultra clean diet. You will lose fat AND gain muscle at the same time, I promise.

Have your caloric intake be only slightly lower than your caloric output (probably 300-500/day) and you'll be on your way. Stick with whole foods like oatmeal, brown rice, vegetables, fruits, and lean meats.

A friend of mine went from a soft 215 to a cut and much stronger 180 in about 3-4 months. He gained some noticeable muscle too (I imagine around 7-10lbs) so his overall fat loss was closer to 30 pounds.

Only when you really start tapping into your body's potential should you be concerned about bulking and cutting.
 

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SynTheUnscathed you sound about like me. I'm 5'9, 190lbs and I'm kind of in the same boat.

But yeah, I'm going to start with the cutting program in a few weeks, when work settles down (working 16hr days right now.)
 

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Originally posted by ghostin
5'10 206 is pretty big. I would suggest cutting down first, but not overly quickly so u can try to keep muscle mass as u do it

Nah, I aint that big, I just have really dense muscles. Mostly in my butt, legs. I can actually see my abs and obliques now, it just is blurry, and not sharp and defined.

I just got this Ebook, Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle...and it is the most comprehensive thing I have ever read. Starting it as soon as I get some money to get my right foods.
 

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Yeah, I can see them. But they arent ripped....that doesnt make sense?


I am not overweight...to most people...to me I am though because I am not lean as I want to be. Most people would not consider me overweight...but of course I am very hard on myself.:(
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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bulk bulk bulk bulk bulk why cut fat into nothing.. use that potential energy contained in your fat to pack on a ton of muscle first... i dont understand why everyone wants to cut into nothing... hes not overweight by any means... put on some muscle first
 

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yeah, but what if you bulk, then cut, and you find out you're more muscled up than you like?

you might cut and then decide "i like the way i look right now" and not need to bulk again.
 

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Originally posted by SynTheUnscathed

I just got this Ebook, Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle...and it is the most comprehensive thing I have ever read. Starting it as soon as I get some money to get my right foods.
I just got it a couple of days ago, and I'm really enjoying it so far. I have trouble reading it though, my attention span is pretty short with eBooks.
....Hey, how bout them Lakers?
 

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Originally posted by reyalp
I just got it a couple of days ago, and I'm really enjoying it so far. I have trouble reading it though, my attention span is pretty short with eBooks.
....Hey, how bout them Lakers?
Yeah, at first its a tiring read. Get down to the last few chapters and thats what you need. How to set up your meals. Exactly what foods to eat at what times. The best way to do Cardio. And the Weightlighting programs.


Of course, the diet is the most important part of any lean lifestyle.

DO EET! I am. I am gonna post some pictures of my body now. and in 3 months.



When I get a camera...
 

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Hey I just got BFFM too!!!

I'm starting the program on the 1st of March and I have to be back in the gym by June....

I'm about 20 lbs overweight.....6'4" about 220 ( have to buy a scale though to be sure)

I'm gonna totally cut first then try to build from their. I'd rather see the fat go first then try to build muscle under the fat.


I was 12% body fat in High School.....I'm workin my way to 9%


I also just started to organize some recipes for the program if you want I can send you a couple......



:rockon:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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SynTheUnscathed

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El MonoLoco said:
Hey I just got BFFM too!!!

I'm starting the program on the 1st of March and I have to be back in the gym by June....

I'm about 20 lbs overweight.....6'4" about 220 ( have to buy a scale though to be sure)

I'm gonna totally cut first then try to build from their. I'd rather see the fat go first then try to build muscle under the fat.


I was 12% body fat in High School.....I'm workin my way to 9%


I also just started to organize some recipes for the program if you want I can send you a couple......



:rockon:

Heck yeah man, send away.:up:
 
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