"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Building some rapport...

MrGold

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Ok from the top. I recently broke up from a long term relationship, and im over the worst of it, so im trying to build my game. Now ive started trying to talk to random girls to break the hesitation and nervousness barrier. So today i was walking down the road, as you do, and i was wearing my gym gear on the way home (looking kinda pumped might i add). I see a cute girl standing at the bus stop and give her a smile right, she returns it. So i walk past her deciding whether or not to speak to her, and end up stopping short just down the road. So there i am thinking, 'wtf do i do? Screw it im goin for it'. So i turn around and go back to the girl at the bus stop and ask straight up, 'Are you single?' with a smile on my face and a fist full of confidence. She shyly says yes, and asks me if this is a joke lol, in a calm and confident manor i assured her i wasnt joking around and that I was genuinly interested. Now this is where i was stumped, what the hell do i say next? How do i build 'rapport'? And whats the best method of approaching a girl? Like a fool i asked for the number straight up only realising my mistake a few nano seconds later! But jus to save me the awkwardness, the bus arrived on que and she made a quick exit. But im definately sure she was interested, as she wasnt really freaked out, more baffled/giggly, and wondering whether i was genuine. How do i guarantee myself that number next time?!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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KontrollerX

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Well I think you played it well.

You were at a bus stop after all.

Not much rapport you could build quickly anyway since the bus was coming.

Er hold up I was under the impression she gave you the number.

She didn't?
 

MrGold

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I dont think she was willing to give it up so easily and quickly since it was so random.
 
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