Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Cardio daily. Remove alcohol. Limit carbs. Drink enough watercan't get rid of love handles. Working out 3-4 days/wk. Eating mostly chicken. Any suggestions?
Curious. Why do you think so? I assumed a low-fat, low-carb, high-protein diet would be the way to trim fast without looking like a runt.I'd cut the chicken way down and eat mostly fruits and vegetables.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
From my perspective, after reading tons of literature over countless years, and sifting through bro-science, youtube, my own doctors, and all things in between, I've settled on a diet of 80% fruits/vegetables being the best for the modern lifestyle. The rest is primarily protein. Add carbs in as your physical workload increases.Curious. Why do you think so? I assumed a low-fat, low-carb, high-protein diet would be the way to trim fast without looking like a runt.
I would just emphasize the eating less. You don't necessarily have to exercise more.In my opinion, if you're not losing weight, then you need to exercise more and eat less.
It's really that simple.
You can do crunches and planks until you're blue in the face. Won't make a difference if you've got a layer of fat covering your abs and obliques.
Yeah, I would still need the diet to be low-calorie overall. In the past, I have lost weight while still building muscle by sticking to two meals a day of fish or chicken and greens. Thanks for the advice.You need to have a caloric deficit from week to week. Calculate your BMR with activity level, eat more than that on workout days and lower on the 4 off days.
Chicken is a good choice when you're trying to lose weight. It's low calorie and high protein. You ever try to eat a pound of chicken in one sitting? Not an easy task haha. A pound of chicken breast is like 640 calories, if I remember correctly.
But yeah, fruits and vegetables and all that.
Edit - It's actually less than 640.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.