"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Building interest with random girls/girls you don't know very well

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I can never seem to get girls interested in me, I approach them, talk to them, but never seem to build interest with them. Talking to girls isn't really a big problem, but I can never seem to a lasting impression on them, like, they always still see me as a 'random guy', not a friend or anything, but a 'random guy'. I see jocks approaching the same girls I approach, the difference? The jocks can actually make the girl laugh, leave a lasting impression on her, build interest with her, but me, she just sees me as another guy, after I approach her. My approach is like this, I go up to a girl, say something like "Hey how's it going?" and get conversation started. I can get a conversation started, but I hardly can ever build rapport. I'll ask her open ended questions like, "What do you do this weekend" and "What are you doing after school?" but that never gets me anywhere . So I want to know, how should I go about building interest? Should I just straight up asks her what she does in her free time? This would help me alot.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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When you talk to girls, its a good idea to tease them (in a fun way, not in a mean way). Try lightening up the conversation by doing this like making fun of something she's wearing or doing. Its a skill that you'll get better at doing.
 

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While you're asking the questions, don't forget to answer them yourself. Examples:

You: "Hey, where do you work?"
HB: "Oh, I have a job at ..."
You ask her a bit more about stuff
HB: Talks about herself
You: "Yea, I work at so and so. It's a really intersting job."

You want to build a rapport with your women. Try showing yourself as an interesting character with a stable life. You build rapport by making an impression. You make an impression by talking about yourself. Don't get me mistaken, you want to let her speak also, but don't turn it into an interview. Keep the ball rolling and make em laugh. If you can do that, you shouldn't have any problems. Just relax and have a good time. If you need more elaborate conversational tips, you can check Dimond Lounge.

-Damian
 

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/\ey, dimond lounge is nice, I like what you're doin man, keep it up
 

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Viper quit these pussy ass threads. Read the damn bible and shut up.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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