"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Building interest with random girls/girls you don't know very well

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Viper

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I can never seem to get girls interested in me, I approach them, talk to them, but never seem to build interest with them. Talking to girls isn't really a big problem, but I can never seem to a lasting impression on them, like, they always still see me as a 'random guy', not a friend or anything, but a 'random guy'. I see jocks approaching the same girls I approach, the difference? The jocks can actually make the girl laugh, leave a lasting impression on her, build interest with her, but me, she just sees me as another guy, after I approach her. My approach is like this, I go up to a girl, say something like "Hey how's it going?" and get conversation started. I can get a conversation started, but I hardly can ever build rapport. I'll ask her open ended questions like, "What do you do this weekend" and "What are you doing after school?" but that never gets me anywhere . So I want to know, how should I go about building interest? Should I just straight up asks her what she does in her free time? This would help me alot.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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When you talk to girls, its a good idea to tease them (in a fun way, not in a mean way). Try lightening up the conversation by doing this like making fun of something she's wearing or doing. Its a skill that you'll get better at doing.
 

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While you're asking the questions, don't forget to answer them yourself. Examples:

You: "Hey, where do you work?"
HB: "Oh, I have a job at ..."
You ask her a bit more about stuff
HB: Talks about herself
You: "Yea, I work at so and so. It's a really intersting job."

You want to build a rapport with your women. Try showing yourself as an interesting character with a stable life. You build rapport by making an impression. You make an impression by talking about yourself. Don't get me mistaken, you want to let her speak also, but don't turn it into an interview. Keep the ball rolling and make em laugh. If you can do that, you shouldn't have any problems. Just relax and have a good time. If you need more elaborate conversational tips, you can check Dimond Lounge.

-Damian
 

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/\ey, dimond lounge is nice, I like what you're doin man, keep it up
 

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Viper quit these pussy ass threads. Read the damn bible and shut up.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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