OnTheWayUp
Senior Don Juan
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I discovered game last year, when I took a year away from college as part of my course and basically spent my entire time partying and thinking about hooking up. It wasn't the most productive thing for my career, but it did go a long way to teaching me social skills (especially those involving girls) and a level of self-esteem which will serve me well for life. I owe much to SS in this respect.
I now find myself back at the college I left just over a year ago. Most of my former friends have graduated, and the people who remain are almost exclusively AFCs and extremely intelligent, very unfeminine girls. It's quite a culture shock from the feminine European girls and the cool, "natural" guys I was hanging out with last year. I've gone from being the social guy who organises nights out and knows the majority of people at parties to a guy who's known more for his academic prowess and someone who knows fewer than 50 people at college. These are not traits that lend themselves to a social life.
I've come to the conclusion that I've got to start to slowly ditch my old "friends" and build a new social circle from scratch, and I'm looking for tips to help me do this. Because of work commitments, I will not have the time to go to as many parties as I did last year, so I want to find a balance between being social and getting a good degree.
Ideas I've had so far:
1) I've made notes of possible wing(wo)men with whom I could potentially go out with this year. These are people who I gel with and who have decent social skills (a rarity at my college, I see now!) and/or are popular and good-looking.
2) I've got a list of 7 girls (and counting) who have shown interest in me before, back in the days when I was too much of a pu$$y to do anything about it, and since I came back. I will be taking these girls to parties and going on dates in the next couple of weeks. I will try and meet their friends as well.
3) I've joined the international society at my college to meet chicks who want to come and study here for a year. European girls are so much more feminine!
4) If this year isn't necessarily going to be great fun socially, I'm going to be working on building up some more muscle definition in the gym for the event that I do meet some more feminine girls.
5) About half of the girls I hooked up with last year I met through music. I ran a band last year and played in 3 more- I've always loved music. I'd like to do something similar this year (as I did at this college 2 years ago) as a way of meeting people and expanding my social circle.
Thanks for reading. Any further ideas?
I now find myself back at the college I left just over a year ago. Most of my former friends have graduated, and the people who remain are almost exclusively AFCs and extremely intelligent, very unfeminine girls. It's quite a culture shock from the feminine European girls and the cool, "natural" guys I was hanging out with last year. I've gone from being the social guy who organises nights out and knows the majority of people at parties to a guy who's known more for his academic prowess and someone who knows fewer than 50 people at college. These are not traits that lend themselves to a social life.
I've come to the conclusion that I've got to start to slowly ditch my old "friends" and build a new social circle from scratch, and I'm looking for tips to help me do this. Because of work commitments, I will not have the time to go to as many parties as I did last year, so I want to find a balance between being social and getting a good degree.
Ideas I've had so far:
1) I've made notes of possible wing(wo)men with whom I could potentially go out with this year. These are people who I gel with and who have decent social skills (a rarity at my college, I see now!) and/or are popular and good-looking.
2) I've got a list of 7 girls (and counting) who have shown interest in me before, back in the days when I was too much of a pu$$y to do anything about it, and since I came back. I will be taking these girls to parties and going on dates in the next couple of weeks. I will try and meet their friends as well.
3) I've joined the international society at my college to meet chicks who want to come and study here for a year. European girls are so much more feminine!
4) If this year isn't necessarily going to be great fun socially, I'm going to be working on building up some more muscle definition in the gym for the event that I do meet some more feminine girls.
5) About half of the girls I hooked up with last year I met through music. I ran a band last year and played in 3 more- I've always loved music. I'd like to do something similar this year (as I did at this college 2 years ago) as a way of meeting people and expanding my social circle.
Thanks for reading. Any further ideas?
