"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Building a sexual connection/creating lust

Asbury

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I have had a major revelation in the past few days - that rarely in my life I have felt a high lust between myself and a partner - the feeling is often mutual and perhaps why I often end up dating girls multiple times, having sex with very few and basically never enjoying the sex.

I have absolutely no problem building an emotional connection with the majority of girls but I think a lack of sexual energy keeps putting me in the friend zone.

How can I raise my libido? (I don't watch porn and rarely fap, though I could be in a NoFap flatline still).

How do you build up a mutual feeling of lust with a girl so you just wanna have sex?


EDIT: I use kino and will practically always have a make out session on a date. I just cannot seem to continue it into the bedroom.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Roober

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Are you attracted to the women you are taking on dates? Are you drinking heavily? Do you have a sedentary lifestyle?

All of these can contribute to poor sexual performance. I know I have had issues, but it was usually that when we took off our clothes, I wasn't excited by her body.
 

AlphaNate

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Are you taking any medications? SSRIs are known to do this.
 
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