"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Building a sexual connection/creating lust

Asbury

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I have had a major revelation in the past few days - that rarely in my life I have felt a high lust between myself and a partner - the feeling is often mutual and perhaps why I often end up dating girls multiple times, having sex with very few and basically never enjoying the sex.

I have absolutely no problem building an emotional connection with the majority of girls but I think a lack of sexual energy keeps putting me in the friend zone.

How can I raise my libido? (I don't watch porn and rarely fap, though I could be in a NoFap flatline still).

How do you build up a mutual feeling of lust with a girl so you just wanna have sex?


EDIT: I use kino and will practically always have a make out session on a date. I just cannot seem to continue it into the bedroom.
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Roober

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Are you attracted to the women you are taking on dates? Are you drinking heavily? Do you have a sedentary lifestyle?

All of these can contribute to poor sexual performance. I know I have had issues, but it was usually that when we took off our clothes, I wasn't excited by her body.
 

AlphaNate

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Are you taking any medications? SSRIs are known to do this.
 
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