"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bruno Mars is a Big Time AFC

909pua

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Especially that song "Grenade"

I can't believe he's out there to make alot of guys think like this...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Are you one of those people that blame music for people shooting up schools? I hope people don't base their dating technique/thinking on a horribly annoying Bruno Mars song.
 

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I think I need to leave this thread ASAP... that really scared me.
 

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Man, it's just a song, not real life.
Girls love hearing hearing that kind of sh!t, but only in song or movie form.
If there are guys who actually take the lyrics to heart, who cares, less competition. Especially if they're running around catching grenades.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJ_Hero said:
He's brainwashing the masses to make it easier for us, what's the problem?
hahaha this is true!
 

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guys, stop going easy on this clown Bruno Mars.......his song "Grenade" is absolutely influential on the masses, and sends an EXTREMELY wrong message.

Also, what he sings about in the song ISN'T romance.

Basically, his song is about this - imagine you are happily married, and then some guy at work falls in love with your wife when he first meets her. He starts going crazy, starts thinking him and your wife should be together, but your wife loves you, and thinks he's a psycho and hopes he'd just go away already and leave her alone. But no, your psycho co-worker starts thinking things like "he'd catch a grenade for your wife, and he doesn't care that she'd mess with his breaks and doesn't even give a shyt about him".

THAT is what this horrible horrible song is about......people need to stop mistaking it for love, because the girl that Bruno Mars is singing about doesn't even like him and all it sounds like is a psycho AFC oneitis obsession, which throws around the idea of DEATH pretty loosely.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hell, when's the last time you even heard and damn song on the radio about "love" and "romance" which wasn't bordering on oneitis obsession? How bout letting the masses hear a song about a boy and a girl falling in love and how much they love each........can't remember the last time I heard one like that.
 

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For once I agree with you Assistant.

Bruno Mars is very popular with the teenage girls right now, though. I was with one recently and she made me watch 3 or 4 of his videos in a row. I had never heard of him.

I think my comment was, "What a chump!" And she just sighed and smiled. I said, "Wow, you really have a thing for him, don't you?" She said, "I love him!"
 

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If you guys want a good song by one of these "teenage obsession" artists... go listen to Sex by Chris Brown. Now THAT is a song we should be following.

"Girl you really in for a treat now, but don't fall in love cause we just havin' sex. I'm gonna get you wet. We not makin love tonight."
"You can thank me in the morning, when you wake up feelin hella good. Feelin like you want me."
 

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909pua said:
Especially that song "Grenade"

I can't believe he's out there to make alot of guys think like this...
1) Any guy who lets his actions be dictated to him by a pop song deserves whatever fate he gets.

2) Hmm, you think he's an AFC? Well, let's see, he's now richer, more famous, and can get more tail than anyone on these boards. So what does that make us?

You can call him a sellout. You can say his music is terrible. But don't make the mistake of thinking there is anything average, chumpy or frustrated about a guy that is making girls across the country wet their panties.

There's nothing more AFCish than calling a more successful guy an AFC out of envy.
 

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Well, making crappy music and getting busted on charges of cocaine possession isn't my idea of successful (I for one am hardly jealous), but to each his own.

He is a public figure, I'll give him that.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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He probably gets laid more than the op. I wonder if his category can be called "pseudo-afc" or "afc player" because these people can sing in such an AFC way and still get treated like rock stars by chicks.
 

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The bad economy is making people soft. The radio is filled with these ridiculous love songs these days.
 

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A guy sings some love songs to get rich and famous, and the OP decides he is an AFC. Based on SONGS he sings on the radio, are you kidding me! What the fvck do you know about the guy beyond what the MEDIA tells you? If you were a close friend of his I'd be intrigued by this claim of yours but NO you heard a SONG and now your enlightened to his personality. The songs are AFC no doubt but your claim that HE is an AFC is stupid and plain speculation.


DJ_Hero said:
He's brainwashing the masses to make it easier for us, what's the problem?
^^This
 

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Asasione said:
A guy sings some love songs to get rich and famous, and the OP decides he is an AFC.

Can people seriously stop being stupid and realize that these ARE NOT LOVE SONGS! How many times do I have to explain that these are songs about psychotic oneitis-riddled chumps.......Grenade is IN NO WAY ABOUT LOVE.

No one has a problem with love songs........we all have a problem with PSYCHO CHUMP songs.

Get the difference?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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