"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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brunette stunner at sprouts

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Rewind to about a week ago, it was a normal shopping day at sprouts. I notice an amazing looking brunette. I went right up to her and said "your hair is completely stunning". She looked appreciative and said "thanks!". Then, I went about my business.

This is a first for me, I don't normally do this.

Fast forward to 15 minutes ago. I get out of my car to find her pushing carts. I'm not having the best day, so I try to avoid her. So my pace quickens as I walk to the store. Her pace quickens faster, and then she's right along side of me. I try to speed up, then she almost runs and cuts right in front of me to get into the store giving me an amazing shot of her beautiful hair.

I'm feeling a bit orbited today, pardon me. :cool:
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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your performance does not impress me. i dont get it. why not close the deal
 

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your performance does not impress me. i dont get it. why not close the deal
what deal? I don't even know her name yet! speedy gonzales!
 

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Rewind to about a week ago, it was a normal shopping day at sprouts. I notice an amazing looking brunette. I went right up to her and said "your hair is completely stunning". She looked appreciative and said "thanks!". Then, I went about my business.

This is a first for me, I don't normally do this.

Fast forward to 15 minutes ago. I get out of my car to find her pushing carts. I'm not having the best day, so I try to avoid her. So my pace quickens as I walk to the store. Her pace quickens faster, and then she's right along side of me. I try to speed up, then she almost runs and cuts right in front of me to get into the store giving me an amazing shot of her beautiful hair.

I'm feeling a bit orbited today, pardon me. :cool:
this... is a very uneventful story, you let her win the race.
 

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Wifehunter pls, this could have been what's called a window of opportunity. Talk to her "oh, are you the girl from the other day blablabla". Easy.
I was speechless, what can I say?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Wifehunter, you did well to initiate with the hair comment. She rewarded you with proximity the next time you saw her by quickening her pace to orbit you as you put it. She wanted you to open her. You said you had a bad day, so you avoided a second interaction.

Did you fear that her potential rejection would compound your bad day?

I get that, if I'm having a bad day at work, I'll ruminate about a co-worker that got to me and ignore the world around me. I'll usually have to do 30 mins of cardio to get it out of my system.

Next time you have the opportunity to escalate, take a minute to collect yourself. Put on your DJ face and chat her up. What's the DJ motto? "Rejection is better than regret."
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Wifehunter, you did well to initiate with the hair comment. She rewarded you with proximity the next time you saw her by quickening her pace to orbit you as you put it. She wanted you to open her. You said you had a bad day, so you avoided a second interaction.

Did you fear that her potential rejection would compound your bad day?

I get that, if I'm having a bad day at work, I'll ruminate about a co-worker that got to me and ignore the world around me. I'll usually have to do 30 mins of cardio to get it out of my system.

Next time you have the opportunity to escalate, take a minute to collect yourself. Put on your DJ face and chat her up. What's the DJ motto? "Rejection is better than regret."
My bad day comes from my financial condition or lack thereof. Being homeless and living in my car, has a lot to do with it. I'm also in reframe mode. So passive interaction in passing, is all I've got.

Thanks, its cool, I'm not serious about escalation. I haven't even so much as kissed a lady since around 2000. I'm "hands off" till I find the right one. I would rather not be physically bonded to a wh0re/slvt (most of them are). I also need to make time for any red flags to appear. A classy lady is what I'm after. It takes time, lots of time!
 

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You have to be careful opening with a compliment.

I tried a similar approach the other day though.

I stopped a waitress and said "I like your hair. Is it real? You don't have extensions? Is that your natural color? You've never dyed it?" and she saw it as my qualifying her (she said "You're looking for signs of me being fake!", which is a better approach than complimenting her). When you can spot girls with their natural hair color you get double bonus points.
 

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I stopped a waitress and said "I like your hair. Is it real? You don't have extensions? Is that your natural color? You've never dyed it?"
I know this isn't your point, but is there a girl alive who has never dyed her hair?

On a related note, what percentage of women out there at any given time do you suppose are sporting their completely natural hair color (no frosting, lightening, nothing)? By the way, I would bet that most of those natural girls are brunette.
 

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My bad day comes from my financial condition or lack thereof. Being homeless and living in my car, has a lot to do with it. I'm also in reframe mode. So passive interaction in passing, is all I've got.

Thanks, its cool, I'm not serious about escalation. I haven't even so much as kissed a lady since around 2000. I'm "hands off" till I find the right one. I would rather not be physically bonded to a wh0re/slvt (most of them are). I also need to make time for any red flags to appear. A classy lady is what I'm after. It takes time, lots of time!
I would focus on your own red flags before looking for them in others. Dude do what you need to asap to get a home and job asap...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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