"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bros before hoes ?

KingWizard

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Some fancy day my friend has invited me over to his new years day party. I came over without any hestitaion. Then I have met this girl, a girl who almost ruined my friendship. She was nice and she was CLEARLY into me, at least for now.By the way, I haven't a smallest idea, that my best friend got friendzoned by her a day before or so. At the party I was too drunk to notice my friend's reaction to my flirt with her.
Going to the topic now, I invited the girl to a coffeehouse, it was a double date actually beacause of her shyness. But meanwhile, something unexpected as fukk happened, I just couldn't believe it. My friend, just got carried away by jealousy and he trashtalked me with her. He tried saying everything to put me in a bad view. The girls later gave me the whole conversation, and at the end she said that my friend is coming too, but she hasn't invited him. The first thing I have done, was calling my friend and integorrating him - why the fukk? what the fukk? I was more angry at the point that he could just tell bull***t around my back. Finally, I received a clearer view at the problem.
Simply: he was bull***ting out of jealousy, that girl was planning to invite my best friend at our date from the beginning , the girl tried to lied, that she hasn't invited him, whatever :down:
Dunno if right or not, but I have forgiven my friend, but I will remember it anyway. I told him , "if you want to play games like this with me, I will show you how the things are done" .
We are cool now, I NEXT'ed the girl ( c'mon, inviting friendzoned third wheel? psycho b), and today is the day of the mentioned date. It's just me, my two friends - one from the double date and also the creator of this drama., we are going to play bowling, drink beer and keep up the BROS BEFORE HOES
I can change shoes, I can change my style, I can change my mindset, I can change my girl. Can I change bros? I guess so, but who I will become then?
Give me an advice, I feel I have done the best in given situation, but I aam only 18 yo, first time this happened to me in such cheeky way.
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SORRY FOR BAD FORMATTING, IT'S MY FIRST POST HERE, I AM LOOKING FORWARD FOR SOME ADVICES - IN BEING GOOD DJ AND LIVING A GOOD LIFE
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Skyline

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I am bro's before hoes and so are you. Were a lot alike in that regard and even have selfish friends who place hoe's over bro's. This issue most likely won't go away, so will you? What did I choose? As far as women go, I have "black listed" one of my good friends from any potential women I come into contact with.

And double date? So your best friend had a blind date. There's no reason to stop talking to this girl if she's trying to set him up even after he got friend zoned, that's his fault.
 

Konada

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Either way your "bro" and ho did you a great favour by showing their true colors.
Time to find better friends, this guy ain't your bro.
 

KingWizard

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I don t think it such a good reason to break a friendship, but I will keep him away from my dates and meetings. Also he was really ashamed of his beahviour, so I let it go actually. Girls will come and girlls will go, but he doesnt need to know about my romance life since that day. Thanks for responses ;p Eeach day is another new expierience, huh?
 

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Your friend probably has a lame-ass 1itis for her, you can understand his behavior. If she's nothing special for you, all good.
If you want to bang her and feel like it's a golden opportunity, do it behind his back. You're doing nothing wrong.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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