"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Broke up because of LDR

hottiedoggie

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Hi, just a few days ago my ex and I broke up, the main reason for it is because of the future prospect of a long distance relationship. You see, I'm a military personnel and the next year, i will be having an overseas training for 10 months. Before the break up, I too had a small scale oversea training that lasted 2 months and during those 2 months, my ex told me she me miss dearly. Both of us got together 2 days before my small scale oversea training, thus we do not have a strong foundation in our relationship. During our talk for the break up, she told me that she didn't like me enough to sacrifice doing long distance relationship for 10 months with me. A couple days ago, i went to meet up with her to give her a doll and a letter. This acts as a closure, now I'm preparing to go NC with her for 1 month hoping that it will get her to miss me since she told me she missed me while i'm having the 2 months overseas training. Is that the correct thing to do? Also i would like to ask, does me seeing her snapchat stories and her seeing my snapchat stories mean that i broke the NC?

I know that many of you would suggest me to move on but i do not want to give up on her
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Lozboss

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hottiedoggie said:
gonna try and get on with life. if she comes back its a bonus
It's tough but get out of this mindset. If you hang about hoping she will come back- you'll eat yourself.

Get on with your life. Your life with HER is OVER. Your life with someone new is around the corner.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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sodbuster

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She got out the CRAYON'S and drew you a PICTURE.... a good one that you don't have to GUESS at it's meaning..... but you STILL want to. THIS is over
 
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