hey guys i really need some help here. just a while ago. my girlfriend of nearly 2 years broke up with me. and i know that im still young but it hurts because we saw each other everyday and like we were basically married. she sed she isnt ready for commitment. and now shes all sad and depressed and whenever we talk its akward. she seys she loves and still but she gets all sad and stuff when we talk. and i dont know what to do. im trying to move on. and she sed she is to. but she seys she still loves me... what should i do guys help!!!
broke up and i need help
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ApocalypseCow2
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I just got out of a two year relationship myself. For your sanity, you have to cut off all contact with this girl. Spend time with your friends. Forget about girls for awhile and enjoy your new found freedom.
If she said she still loves you, she's probably trying to spare your feelings. Pay no attention to what she says. When your in the midst of a breakup, it's Mixed-Signals City.
If she said she still loves you, she's probably trying to spare your feelings. Pay no attention to what she says. When your in the midst of a breakup, it's Mixed-Signals City.
TillTheEndOfTime
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Apocalypse is right. DON'T listen to ANYTHING she says now. It's all a load of BS.
If she "still loves you", then she would NOT have broken up with you in the first place. Breaking up with you was the final indication that she no longer does. She's just being selfish by making it out to be like you still have a chance when you really do not. She's just saying this BS to keep you in her life as support. Don't fall in the trap. It is over. Completely.
Cut her out of your life in every way possible. Move on.
If she "still loves you", then she would NOT have broken up with you in the first place. Breaking up with you was the final indication that she no longer does. She's just being selfish by making it out to be like you still have a chance when you really do not. She's just saying this BS to keep you in her life as support. Don't fall in the trap. It is over. Completely.
Cut her out of your life in every way possible. Move on.
and belive me, even if you were to get back together. you'll break up again 90% of all relationships that end the first time around usally means its done
i dunno why people get back together however it NEVER last. the same problem will keep surfaceing
i dunno why people get back together however it NEVER last. the same problem will keep surfaceing
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Breaking up can suck...yes it may of happened for a reason...but sometimes it happens for stupid reasons and people grow up and realize what happened was, in fact, stupid...
Be careful that she is not talking to you just to make herself feel better...It has been my experience that some girls talk to their ex's so they dont feel so bad about what they did...but at the same time, the ex is gettin a false sense of hope that things will work out...sometimes things are going bad for the girl, and she calls the ex and uses him to feel better and then she takes off again until she needs him to make her feel better again...yes, I am saying this is what happened...
I am telling you this cause you need to step back and take a look at whats going on...It happened to me because when you are emotionally involved with someone and stuck right in the middle of things, its hard to see what the big picture is...You need to step back and evaluate whats going on and if this is good for you or not...
If its not, then break off all communication...no calls, emails, text messages, etc....if you feel it is not in your best interest, then why stick with it?
Be careful that she is not talking to you just to make herself feel better...It has been my experience that some girls talk to their ex's so they dont feel so bad about what they did...but at the same time, the ex is gettin a false sense of hope that things will work out...sometimes things are going bad for the girl, and she calls the ex and uses him to feel better and then she takes off again until she needs him to make her feel better again...yes, I am saying this is what happened...
I am telling you this cause you need to step back and take a look at whats going on...It happened to me because when you are emotionally involved with someone and stuck right in the middle of things, its hard to see what the big picture is...You need to step back and evaluate whats going on and if this is good for you or not...
If its not, then break off all communication...no calls, emails, text messages, etc....if you feel it is not in your best interest, then why stick with it?
Alot of good advice here. But I want to point out that many times people break up for a while (especially when younger) and then get back together again stronger than ever. It happens all the time. If you ask married couples about their dating days, many will tell you they split up or something at one time.
tmpgstx
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I've never really noticed that with couples Bigfoot. If they break up once, young or not, it's almost with 100% certainity just a matter of time before it's over completely.
There are always exceptions of couse though
There are always exceptions of couse though
I can think of two examples : my sister broke up with her husband for about 6 months before they got engaged. My friend broke up with her husband several times before they got married (although the marriage isn't that great I'll admit)
I'm sure alot of other people know similar situations.
I'm sure alot of other people know similar situations.
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I just broke with my gf (3 days ago) because I didn't want to stay in such a commited relationship and trust me, I do love her.
However, If someone isn't at that point in there life, no amount of love or pleading will get them ready.
You'd be best off trying to cut contact and keeping yourself busy because she isn't about to change right away. She feels she still has some single, unfinished business.
I just broke with my gf (3 days ago) because I didn't want to stay in such a commited relationship and trust me, I do love her.
However, If someone isn't at that point in there life, no amount of love or pleading will get them ready.
You'd be best off trying to cut contact and keeping yourself busy because she isn't about to change right away. She feels she still has some single, unfinished business.
NewMan
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Cut off contact with her now, and give her that freedom she so wants.
she will use you in the meantime for emotional support as long as you keep in contact with her.
you do not want to be used....
your young so you will eventually figure this out.
she will use you in the meantime for emotional support as long as you keep in contact with her.
you do not want to be used....
your young so you will eventually figure this out.
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Not sure but based on what you wrote about the situation, you didn't show her that passion anymore. You even said yourself you felt married, thats too attached. She didn't feel "it" anymore.
Remember this lesson: Women can only experience real passion for if on some level she believes she could do something to lose you.
In any case, you learned a lesson and I'm sure you don't want to be stomped on anymore by this chick. Man up and move on.
Remember this lesson: Women can only experience real passion for if on some level she believes she could do something to lose you.
In any case, you learned a lesson and I'm sure you don't want to be stomped on anymore by this chick. Man up and move on.
MacDiddy
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This guy can't be helped till he makes the commitment to move on from the grieving process... and stop all contact with her!!!
And... if you're thinking about trying to hook back up with her, you won't succeed... Its those guys that don't try hard.... that are the ones that make it...
Go on... prove me wrong!!!
And... if you're thinking about trying to hook back up with her, you won't succeed... Its those guys that don't try hard.... that are the ones that make it...
Go on... prove me wrong!!!
Most of everyone's advice is solid... Cutting off contact as well as getting in touch with friends and perhaps making new ones.
I'm not sure what Bigfoot is trying to say because he believes in hope (perhaps he is going by what he is experiencing right now.) But the majority of posts in this thread suggest post-experience where everyone recommends you discontinue contact. I prefer the post-experience advice rather than current experience of hope or the lost of hope.
I'm not sure what Bigfoot is trying to say because he believes in hope (perhaps he is going by what he is experiencing right now.) But the majority of posts in this thread suggest post-experience where everyone recommends you discontinue contact. I prefer the post-experience advice rather than current experience of hope or the lost of hope.