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I think he completely missed the point of no contact, which is to heal yourself and move on...Since when has no contact been a thing? Someone needs to ban no contact threads from sosuave. It's a pathetic attempt to change women's emotions. No contact has never been a thing when it comes to being a Don Juan. You cannot change a woman's emotions by being contrived.
None of your contrivance will ever work. Not in the next 10 years of no contact, or even in the next million years. Unless Aliens came down and re-wired human females.
The true meaning of no contact is moving on with your life and excelling towards abundance. It is not a technique to desperately win over an old flame.
Who the fvck came up with this lame sh1t? Lol.
No contact is good man its the reason for it that sometime is not.Since when has no contact been a thing? Someone needs to ban no contact threads from sosuave. It's a pathetic attempt to change women's emotions. No contact has never been a thing when it comes to being a Don Juan. You cannot change a woman's emotions by being contrived.
None of your contrivance will ever work. Not in the next 10 years of no contact, or even in the next million years. Unless Aliens came down and re-wired human females.
The true meaning of no contact is moving on with your life and excelling towards abundance. It is not a technique to desperately win over an old flame.
Who the fvck came up with this lame sh1t? Lol.
Food for toughtI think it's time for me to close this chaptwr of my life. She had been gone for 9 months and habenr heard a word from her in 5 months. She hates me and has zero interest. Dumb move to send her a birthday msg a week ago. I'll just let the kids be friends and move on with my life.
"The ways of the heart cannot be explained. The heart wants what it wants."Some men come here and they are suffering with serious emotional pain that completely prevents solid advice from taking root.
Two things:I guess now I just keep moving forward, work, gym, etc and be a good father for my kid when he is here. Reaching out to my ex is not an option no more especially after the birthday text and email which I got no reply. I guess enough is enough. No woman in this world should be worth of so much trouble and humiliation.
I have talked to friends, family, etc I will let my ex pick up my son or have her daughter come to my place for night overs if my ex reached out which she most likely will. I'll just be 'invisible' in the background, quiet and let her do as she pleases. Only reply to her msgs short and straight to the point about the kids. If the kids interactions will make her come closer to me, great, if not, so be it.
Still to much effort and thinking about this, this is not healing.Update.
Yesterday my ex's daughter called my son a few times he didn't pick up. So in the evening my ex texted my son "honey, is everything alright?" she probably thought I had told my son to cut contact with them because my ex didn't reply to my birthday msg.
I'm certainly now she is gonna reach out to me soon to ask permission to pick up my kid when he moves here for play dates with her daughter.
I'm very inclined now to totally ignore her msgs and if she insists just tell her something along the lines.
"I wanted to be together with you and the kids but you didn't want to. I'm not interest too keep this connection between the kids as we are not together anymore. But I wish you all the best for you and your daughter"
She hasn't reached out in 5 months now, hasn't replied to my birthday text. I don't want her to think that she now can't just come to pick up my son and its all good. No way. Maybe not letting the kids meet ill be burning all the bridges with her an kill the very last piece of hope to get back together. But I think it's the right think to do.
Dude you arent picking up what everyone here has been laying down.I'm very inclined now to totally ignore her msgs and if she insists just tell her something along the lines.
"I wanted to be together with you and the kids but you didn't want to. I'm not interest too keep this connection between the kids as we are not together anymore. But I wish you all the best for you and your daughter"
Don't ever use your kids as a bargaining chip. They are innocent and have nothing to do with it. If her daughter and your son truly like each other and are friends, let them be friends, even though your situation with your ex may be different. Always put them first and your feelings second. I see this happening all the time in divorces/breakups. It's even pathetic to see ex's fight over the custody of a damn cat.Update.
Yesterday my ex's daughter called my son a few times he didn't pick up. So in the evening my ex texted my son "honey, is everything alright?" she probably thought I had told my son to cut contact with them because my ex didn't reply to my birthday msg.
I'm certainly now she is gonna reach out to me soon to ask permission to pick up my kid when he moves here for play dates with her daughter.
I'm very inclined now to totally ignore her msgs and if she insists just tell her something along the lines.
"I wanted to be together with you and the kids but you didn't want to. I'm not interest too keep this connection between the kids as we are not together anymore. But I wish you all the best for you and your daughter"
She hasn't reached out in 5 months now, hasn't replied to my birthday text. I don't want her to think that she now can't just come to pick up my son and its all good. No way. Maybe not letting the kids meet ill be burning all the bridges with her an kill the very last piece of hope to get back together. But I think it's the right think to do.
I missed the part where you blocked and forgot her and banged a fun new girl.Update.
Why don't you ask some female friends what they would do? They will resolve it for youI'm not gonna block her, but I think I'm not gonna reply more to her msgs when she reaches out and not let the kids meet no more. She hasn't texted my son in 2 months but she did yesterday
I think I'm gonna cut all the friendship between the kids. I don't wanna deal with her 3 to 4 times a month at my doorstep picking up my son if we are not together. It's ridiculous. I'd be open to work thinks out with her but otherwise I rather cut off all the ties between us. It's gonna look immature and petty tho.Don't ever use your kids as a bargaining chip. They are innocent and have nothing to do with it. If her daughter and your son truly like each other and are friends, let them be friends, even though your situation with your ex may be different. Always put them first and your feelings second. I see this happening all the time in divorces/breakups. It's even pathetic to see ex's fight over the custody of a damn cat.
Pretty funny that the son is setting an example for the father and not the other way around.Update.
Yesterday my ex's daughter called my son a few times he didn't pick up.
Dont cut it, unless her kid is a bad influence.I think I'm gonna cut all the friendship between the kids. I don't wanna deal with her 3 to 4 times a month at my doorstep picking up my son if we are not together. It's ridiculous. I'd be open to work thinks out with her but otherwise I rather cut off all the ties between us. It's gonna look immature and petty tho.
I probably just ignore all her msgs when she reaches out
I don't mind the kids to keep playing game a online and call etc but I don't want to have her no more at my door every week and have to deal with her if we aren't togetherDont cut it, unless her kid is a bad influence.
This is acting selfish, you make this about you and your ex.
That friendship as nothing to do with your ex.
Dont use this as a reason get in contact woth her but why the **** does your ex txt your boy.
Mods should close this thread it is feeding the neediness and desperation.
Are you retarded? You've been broken up for months. She has been out there sucking and fvcking new c0cks and you are sitting around playing the victim and internalizing how to get her back in your head. That itself shows you have ZERO self esteem and no standards.I'd be open to work thinks out with her but otherwise I rather cut off all the ties between us. It's gonna look immature and petty tho.
Of course you wont. You're a victimized attention wh0re. Which is why she got smart and left your @ss in the first place.I'm not gonna block her