"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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bringing up sex/talking about it openly

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*Setting sexual expectations early is important. Do this when you meet a woman. Women love a man who can make it clear and not waste their time on murkiness.
*Women feel more comfortable with an out-in-the-open sexual acting man than a presume-he-is-hiding-something platonic acting man.

it's important to be able to chat about sex openly. i've been doing the same thing over and over: bringing up the show "sex in the city" which sometimes, not all the time, branches off into chatting about sex. how do you guys bring up sex and openly talk about it w/ a new girl?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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all i know is if i admitted to watching sex and the city i would get a beat down
 

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i told girls something along the lines, "my friend's fiance is always watching sex in the city. the past few times i've visited, she has a sex in the city dvd on.... so what's so big about this show?"

should have pointed this out earlier. i do agree w/ you; telling a girl that you watch this show probably wouldn't amp the attraction level for ya
 

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hmmm the last time I brought it up er wait I think I just made a move on her and then we had the sex talk. Oooh the pain oooh the blue balls needless to say I couldn't wait until she left cus I needed to bust a nut (she was an effin hottie)
 

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Originally posted by john_1234
i told girls something along the lines, "my friend's fiance is always watching sex in the city. the past few times i've visited, she has a sex in the city dvd on.... so what's so big about this show?"

should have pointed this out earlier. i do agree w/ you; telling a girl that you watch this show probably wouldn't amp the attraction level for ya
gettin ur ass beat down prlly wouldnt either
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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