"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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bringing up sex/talking about it openly

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*Setting sexual expectations early is important. Do this when you meet a woman. Women love a man who can make it clear and not waste their time on murkiness.
*Women feel more comfortable with an out-in-the-open sexual acting man than a presume-he-is-hiding-something platonic acting man.

it's important to be able to chat about sex openly. i've been doing the same thing over and over: bringing up the show "sex in the city" which sometimes, not all the time, branches off into chatting about sex. how do you guys bring up sex and openly talk about it w/ a new girl?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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all i know is if i admitted to watching sex and the city i would get a beat down
 

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i told girls something along the lines, "my friend's fiance is always watching sex in the city. the past few times i've visited, she has a sex in the city dvd on.... so what's so big about this show?"

should have pointed this out earlier. i do agree w/ you; telling a girl that you watch this show probably wouldn't amp the attraction level for ya
 

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hmmm the last time I brought it up er wait I think I just made a move on her and then we had the sex talk. Oooh the pain oooh the blue balls needless to say I couldn't wait until she left cus I needed to bust a nut (she was an effin hottie)
 

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Originally posted by john_1234
i told girls something along the lines, "my friend's fiance is always watching sex in the city. the past few times i've visited, she has a sex in the city dvd on.... so what's so big about this show?"

should have pointed this out earlier. i do agree w/ you; telling a girl that you watch this show probably wouldn't amp the attraction level for ya
gettin ur ass beat down prlly wouldnt either
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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