"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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stubbornlights

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an old friend was talking to me online.

she brought up how her current relationship was up in arms, and she wasn't sure of how things were going to work out. later, she typed,

"I don't know why I'm saying this, but I had a really big crush on you last year."

I'm not into her. Start running and be a non-juan, or is this just friendly nostalgic banter?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The Bad Ass Canadian

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If you're not into her, then what does it matter?

My guess would be is that she's testing the waters a bit and seeing how you'd react to her telling you this. Most crushes don't go away. A part of that feeling always stays with you and can easily be reignited.
 

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it doesn't matter too much, but we're not great friends, and I'd rather not hang out with someone and have the proceedings tinted with some romantic undertone. I just feel really uncomfortable and don't enjoy myself if I'm hanging around with someone who has feelings for me that I don't reciprocate.
 

The Bad Ass Canadian

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Originally posted by stubbornlights
it doesn't matter too much, but we're not great friends, and I'd rather not hang out with someone and have the proceedings tinted with some romantic undertone. I just feel really uncomfortable and don't enjoy myself if I'm hanging around with someone who has feelings for me that I don't reciprocate.
lol

That's the feeling most women get when their chumpy friend tries to make his move.
 

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Dude, if she values your friendship then it won't matter, but you need to make sure she knows that all you want is friendship, nothing more.

There will be romantic undertones if she thinks there's any possibility of something happening.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

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