"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Brian20o2

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Well... Simply put. I need to work on my game. Im ok with attraction and being friendly and confident but theres one thing I cant do. Cold Aproach.

Ive been in bootcamps and always seem to bail on the week where you go out and cold approach 10 hotties. I need to get over this.

I also think this is the perfect time for me to do this too. Because
1 I have a car
2 I am getting close to a job (that means interviews as well as being friendly when I have to do my job)
3 I am working out and can feel the testosterone and alphanessduring and post workout.

Rules:
Must be attractive 6+
Must be someone I dont know
Must last at least 2 min
Must write a short FR

School and Job approaches will be counted as half because either its my job to talk/help them or I have probably seen them around school before.

I dont know how long this will take and am not going to aim for a high number per day because I am new and I dont always have time to go and socialize. I am thinking maybe 5-10 per week because I am busy. This should only take me about 4 months max.

Wish me luck and yell at me If I dont keep up.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Go for it man. I always love a good journal make sure you put detail into your reports.
 
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Good luck man, why the April 17th?
the only time that matters is right now.
 
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mr_elor said:
I don't think there's any harm in planning ahead, 'cos it gives you chance to sort anything out that's needs sorting. As it long as it's not too far ahead that is.

D'you think maybe you'll become as legendary as Walden? ;)
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Hahaha! I wish! That will take a while and I need more skills in order to be able to withhold a rep as well as his.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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dude, it is good to plan ahead, but it sounds like you are stalling a little bit by starting on the 17th. Why not now?
 
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wavejams007 said:
dude, it is good to plan ahead, but it sounds like you are stalling a little bit by starting on the 17th. Why not now?
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Spring break, stuck at home, minor surgery, very little social activity. 17th Is when school starts up and I can go socialize in a real city.
 
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Bump it up!
Ive decided Im also gonna try and incorperate less masturbation along with this. From now on only 1 time a week. I think it gonna be saturday. That way I let the testosterone build up all week and friday night. To all the nay-sayers: Shut up. I know that not masturbating helps me be more "in frame", alpha, w/e

This shouldnt be that hard as long as I keep up: 1 Approach per day

Im pumped to get this going!
 
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Hey man your first day of work begins tomorrow, again good look. After you get the first one it gets easier and easier. Go for it now is the time use the 3 sec rule and remember to keep your thinking positive afterwards. I just read Resilient signature on this forum just now I like it. “Each approach is a brick in your palace”

I’ll be waiting to hear back

Ryder
 
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good luck and have fun.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Good luck, I look forward to reading this
 
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Read some dj bible as you wait for the 17th. Me and the rest of the djs will help. Like I told bourne, not everyone will be friendly when you apporach them. So be ready.

Good luck. I plan on doing a 100 apporach journal myself this summer.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Im a loser. lol. Today I was to busy/tired... But Im prolly just using that as an excuse. I didnt even work out today cause I was so trired and had a big HW load. I need to figure out a half hour of free time every day that I can go out and do this. :down: I need to stop with the excuses (The reason Im doing this) *Slaps himself in the face* Damn its hard to change and get out of my box. I am now 1 day behind and for every day behind I get I will make myself do an extra approach the next day.
 
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you got a car? congratulations. Now if you don't have an escalade or a porsche you better work on your game dude. Stop pussing out and just go and talk to those girls. (you can bring a camera with you and film the whole thing so that you can make your own website and get paid for it... just a suggestion)
 
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paraguayandj said:
you got a car? congratulations. Now if you don't have an escalade or a porsche you better work on your game dude. Stop pussing out and just go and talk to those girls. (you can bring a camera with you and film the whole thing so that you can make your own website and get paid for it... just a suggestion)
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lol
I wrote I have a car because that means I have freedom. I can go places by myself when I feel like it. I want to go do this: Take the car to the mall or w/e
 
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Shyt I haven't left the house all day either! I have end of the semester work to do. Sarge in between classes?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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