That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I worked at a 4 star restaurant in New Orleans and the waitresses were very stuck up, yet threw themselves at any man who passed through the parking lot in a 745 BMW! I never messed with any of these women.Big Pappy said:I have a small amount of experience with Strippers, and as a former Manager of a Hooter's Restaurant, you are barking up a really crappy tree.
I'm not going so far as to say all Strippers and Hooters' girls are crap - but I think you have lost sight, if you ever had it, what being "so suave" is about.
We start our pursuit of women and some learn straight away that women are not the prize -- we men are the prize. Just looking for a stripper or a hooters girl is telling me that you want a fantastic looking woman with little regard for the rest of her. Well - that's fine in some cases - but I guarantee you that path is filled with short term fun but long term regret. I guarantee it. Beautiful woman are one thing - but these gals are not that good looking once you get close.
They are people, too. And some of the gals are bright, articulate and have heard anything you can come up with. You want to make it with one of these gals- the first advantage is to find out ( without freaking them out) is where they play after they work. Most of the Hooters' Girls will have nothing to do with any guy that they meet while working. It has nothing to do with you, but with what their co-workers will NOT say to them if they find out. No girl, regardless of their sexual activities want's to be thought of as an easy lay. And of course, if a hooters' girl is seen with you in public, and her friends (co-workers)recognize you from the store, they are gonna speak those evil lies (true or not!) about her to everyone else. (Not every girl is like this, but enough of them are to discourage any girl from doing this)
So -- you have to meet the Hooters' girl for the first time without ever knowing she works at Hooters.
If you want to meet strippers, any waffle house or IHOP or Denny's may have them getting food when they get off work - anywhere from 4 to 6 am. They will look horrible, because they've been on their feet all night. It can be scary. They will all have issues - because healthy, well-adjusted women don't strip. (If they do, they don't stay healthy, well-adjusted women)
My best advice is for you to forget about it. Do the things that you like to do. When you see a good looking woman that you'd like to know better, invite her into your world for an action date. No movies, no plays, (but maybe a comedy lounge). Air Hockey. Pool. Bowling. Tubing, Horseback riding - anything that will keep you from talking about yourself - but make you seem more fun than the average guy. Never let these outings end "in their own time" - but call them short on purpose. If you're not having a good time, call it even sooner. If you're having a great time - she probably is, too. Leave her wanting more.
As you improve yourself, you will attract beautiful women that aren't shaking that junk in the trunk for a buck.
And, as my old man would say, "If it's that easy, there's probably something wrong with it."
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Big Pappy said:I have a small amount of experience with Strippers, and as a former Manager of a Hooter's Restaurant, you are barking up a really crappy tree.
I'm not going so far as to say all Strippers and Hooters' girls are crap - but I think you have lost sight, if you ever had it, what being "so suave" is about.
We start our pursuit of women and some learn straight away that women are not the prize -- we men are the prize. Just looking for a stripper or a hooters girl is telling me that you want a fantastic looking woman with little regard for the rest of her. Well - that's fine in some cases - but I guarantee you that path is filled with short term fun but long term regret. I guarantee it. Beautiful woman are one thing - but these gals are not that good looking once you get close.
They are people, too. And some of the gals are bright, articulate and have heard anything you can come up with. You want to make it with one of these gals- the first advantage is to find out ( without freaking them out) is where they play after they work. Most of the Hooters' Girls will have nothing to do with any guy that they meet while working. It has nothing to do with you, but with what their co-workers will NOT say to them if they find out. No girl, regardless of their sexual activities want's to be thought of as an easy lay. And of course, if a hooters' girl is seen with you in public, and her friends (co-workers)recognize you from the store, they are gonna speak those evil lies (true or not!) about her to everyone else. (Not every girl is like this, but enough of them are to discourage any girl from doing this)
So -- you have to meet the Hooters' girl for the first time without ever knowing she works at Hooters.
If you want to meet strippers, any waffle house or IHOP or Denny's may have them getting food when they get off work - anywhere from 4 to 6 am. They will look horrible, because they've been on their feet all night. It can be scary. They will all have issues - because healthy, well-adjusted women don't strip. (If they do, they don't stay healthy, well-adjusted women)
My best advice is for you to forget about it. Do the things that you like to do. When you see a good looking woman that you'd like to know better, invite her into your world for an action date. No movies, no plays, (but maybe a comedy lounge). Air Hockey. Pool. Bowling. Tubing, Horseback riding - anything that will keep you from talking about yourself - but make you seem more fun than the average guy. Never let these outings end "in their own time" - but call them short on purpose. If you're not having a good time, call it even sooner. If you're having a great time - she probably is, too. Leave her wanting more.
As you improve yourself, you will attract beautiful women that aren't shaking that junk in the trunk for a buck.
And, as my old man would say, "If it's that easy, there's probably something wrong with it."