"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Breakup with long time girlfriend for new girlfriend?

jnMissouri

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-New girl is a 9, mid thirties, fun, banging body and face, we love each other, etc.

-Been dating each other about 5 months.

-She is not as financially put together as my current girl though who isn't a baller by any means but leaps and bounds better off than this one. I've never been a sugar daddy, I expect women to contribute financially to things. New girl has career potential though. She drives me wild too, makes me feel alive.

Current girl's beauty and my attraction for her is starting to fade or has been for a long time. She went from an 8.5 to a 7. I started having affairs a few years into the relationship (she was no angel herself back in one of her past relationships). She's kind of slow and aggravating some times as well. To some extent I think I've stayed so long because I have no family support system nearby and spend the holiday's with her family, etc. Thing is, I know it's over in a lot of ways because sometimes I want to come home and tell her about this new girl as if my current girl is my friend not my girlfriend...She suspects there is another woman, but kind of turns a blind eye sometimes as if she doesn't want to know, is afraid to find out for sure.

FWIW, I've tried to end the relationship for years with this girl but she just pretends that I never asked her to leave or tried to break up with her.

Biggest reason I'm doing this is because the new girl keeps wondering why I never bring her to my place and she is about to come back from seeing her family. Sooner or later the jig will be up. New girl also seems to suspect I have someone else, has asked questions about certain things before, but also seems to not want to know for sure...
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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New girl drives you Wild?? Sorry it isn't going to last.
 

GrowingPains

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Wtf?

You're in a relationship that you 'tried' to end? Boy if you don't nut up and break up with this girl...

As for the second girl. Make her a plate. Let her all for exclusivity. But remember, everything that goes is not gold.
 

soulforge

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Wtf?

You're in a relationship that you 'tried' to end? Boy if you don't nut up and break up with this girl...

As for the second girl. Make her a plate. Let her all for exclusivity. But remember, everything that goes is not gold.
There is always someone hotter, sexier, wilder around the corner.

Sometimes you can let go of a good thing, chasing those girls that, as you state DRIVE YOU WILD
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You are a guy "in demand" right now. Life feels pretty sweet huh? And everyone can see this in you

THERE'S the attraction. And if you lose that - you will lose them both.

What happens when you stop being that guy? What happens when you go all "committal" on the 9?

Tread carefully my friend
 

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New girl is a 9, mid thirties, fun, banging body and face, we love each other, etc.
So she is a NEW girl and you LOVE each other? What could possibly go wrong with this insta-relationship?

This is not called building a rotation. This is called delirious thinking.
 

GrowingPains

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Wtf?

You're in a relationship that you 'tried' to end? Boy if you don't nut up and break up with this girl...

As for the second girl. Make her a plate. Let her ask* for exclusivity. But remember, everything that glitters* is not gold.
 

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Really I don't see the problem. Just break things off with the chick you don't want.... this isn't rocket science. You should have done this months ago when you felt the need to date other chicks.
 

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If you've been cheating on current girl for awhile, let her go so she can find someone who is LOYAL

Hypergamous branch swinging men.....
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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jnMissouri

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Thing is I view relationships as temporary anyways. It soured with the old/current girl and she won't leave. New girl is my current fun but wont last forever.
 
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Thing is I view relationships as temporary anyways. It soured with the old/current girl and she won't leave. New girl is my current fun but wont last forever.
If it’s soured with the current gf end it. Not sure what the hiccup is here. She’s not forcing you to be with her is she, with gun to head?
She may get upset but she’ll move on and meet someone else and be out of your life.
 
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