"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Breakup, no contact, give her stuff back?

Gregorn

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Hi,

My girlfriend dumped me a week ago. I know the best idea is to go no contact with her (http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=82346). I have a good feeling she will end up contacting me again since I think we broke up mostly because of external factors, not a new guy or anything. We dated five months.

I'm not sure what I'll do if she contacts me. Probably at least blow her off at first. I'd have to think about it.

But anyway my question is: I have a pillow and a few things of hers. I don't really want to break no contact since I've done a good job of it so far even though I really want to see her. Is it okay if I drop her pillow off on her porch? We live really close by. I also have a couple pictures of her by herself that i have no need for now. Is it okay if I give those back or would that look vindictive? Perhaps it would further look like I was just moving on. I'm unsure.

Thank you
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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chuchu

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Haha your gf dumped u, game over. Now press reset.

Give the pillow to the homeless.
 

Da Realist

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If she's not asking for it, don't give it back. Just throw it in a box in the attic and keep going.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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I would give it back to her. I have left things over at a girlfriends house that I really wanted back. Thankfully, I did... Stop by her house and drop it off without telling her.

Or if you really want throw it away. Just don't keep it cause seeing those items will only remind you of her.
 

chinwaggler

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put it away in a box. if you keep them, she'll think you're clinging on, if you leave them on a porch or give them away, she'll think your being vindictive, unless she asks for them back.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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