Breakup (get to know phase) text first or wait for her to text first

jiggolo71

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hey guys I try to make it as short as possible.
Me and a girl had an ONS (both 20)we were in a kinda relationship. First she wanted to commit me but I said we are just friends. She asked me many times to visit her but I never did and I think it pressed her a little bit. She **** tested me saying that i should just find smb else and she smb else and I just said you right and again she got mad for me saying this. After a time I thought probably bcs of no other options at the time that it could be good to commit a relationship with her and I asked her 2times to meet and she said she had her exams for her failed last year to take. I ignored her and responded only daily because I felt something changed with her and she asked many times what is wrong that im not texting as usual. Some days or a week passed and I got drunk I told her that I have some other problems and her playing games is pisssin me off a bit emotional but not in an extreme way and it was the first time I let my guard down. After that she never texted me first again only on my birthday. When I texted I could read her that she is playing a game trying not to give as much as before and trying to be more interesting. I deleted her on Snap so I dont see her and she can’t text me. She created at least 30 women fake accounts trying something but I never accepted them bcs I know its her.
What should I do now it wasnt a real relationship we only met 1 time and we destroyed it by texting.

Can I text her after all
this again or should I wait for her its been about 5months?
 

jiggolo71

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to add she was honestly a good girl but I mistreated her and didnt respect her.
 

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to add she was honestly a good girl but I mistreated her and didnt respect her.
Given this and the fact, that you didn't want to see her anyways, why do you want contact with her?
After this, you can't expect her to reach out.
Let her go and find someone you really want to meet and spend time with.
 

BackInTheGame78

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You are committing to a relationship after a single night? Good God man...this is terrible. Have some standards.
 

thesimplestseed

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**IF I WERE IN THIS SITUATION** I would work on improving myself. Find that love and respect with myself before trying to with someone. I would use this situation as a motive to move forward. I wouldn't just text this girl, I would meet up and actually make things more traditional and actually talk in person. I wouldn't be able to tell any emotion from behind a screen. She was a good girl to me but I let my own ego get the best of me. The problem is myself and I am willing to not change but do things differently. I will do things because it benefits me and not do it because it benefits others. - The Simplest Seed
 
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