"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Breakthrough. The ART of DRAMATIC PRESENCE.

NeverFear

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We make statements about women a lot on here, but here's a tip that works for both genders.

Much has been said about not being BORING. You know...thinking that you're earning lots of points for being dependable, friend material, reliable, generous, etc.

And you DO EARN POINTS. FRIENDSHIP POINTS.

I've come to realize that people universally are mesmerized by a dramatic life and presence.

The question to ask is:: What emotion do you make in other people? How is your life dramatically interesting ? When you go on a date how is is dramatically memorable?

Now, you dont have to dennis rodman to achieve this effect. You know,,,loud clothes, big mouth.

Its just that WHEN YOURE AROUND, THINGS HAPPEN. You MEET interesting people. You go to unique places. You create unforgetable memories.

In short, when she thinks of you,,,even subconsciously, she KNOWS she wont be bored because ACTIVITY swirls around you.

You dont have dinner. You have an EXPERIENCE.

Remember guys. You're not offering your boring presence. Youre' offering a dramatic experience.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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chicksrock

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good point..
must have significant and unique interactions with HB's
 

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That's where humor (C+F for all you *term* freaks) come in play. People tend to remember humorous events and parts of the speech (words, sentences, jokes) 5 times longer or so.

Another thing that people here should start using: I-M-A-G-I-N-A-T-I-O-N !!
 

Hot Ice

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Good point, yes!

And even without women, you should always pursue exciting experiences and stop living your boring routine life.

I love to make some extempore trips to somewhere.
And without making plans you'll always get a little adventure out of it.

EDIT: Come to think about it, I've reached the level I pursued earlier.
Lately I've seen I have to change again mostly improving my life as general to get on another level trying new things and get most of my live way more exciting.
That means new friends, new activities.

If you want to improve you have to evolve all the time, otherwise you'll draw back into same shyt you've been always in before.
Yes, Evolve, make drastic changes. Starting from every little detail.

You can't fake dramatic precence and make people get excited by your persona.
You have to BE it.

One of the hardest parts of this is leaving the old things back.
It requires huge courage to truly improve and leave your current state and live you are comforted with.
 
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