I broke up with my current gf about two months ago and we talked about it and decided to give it one try, shes super nice and smart. However it sounds bad but I know I can do better and frankly Im bored with her, I already have a few other girls "in the works". Shes going off to school next year and Im simply not committed enough to make a 1.5 h drive to see her on campus, we're at different parts of our lives, I recently graduated from university and shes just starting. I want to break up with her, but I have no real reason to and if I bring it up Ill "blind side" her again.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
breaking up with the gf ...again
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
eaglez1177
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No real reason? Hmm lets see:mtlwlu said:I broke up with my current gf about two months ago and we talked about it and decided to give it one try, shes super nice and smart. However it sounds bad but I know I can do better and frankly Im bored with her, I already have a few other girls "in the works". Shes going off to school next year and Im simply not committed enough to make a 1.5 h drive to see her on campus, we're at different parts of our lives, I recently graduated from university and shes just starting. I want to break up with her, but I have no real reason to and if I bring it up Ill "blind side" her again.
-Youre bored of her
-You dont wanna commit
-Youve got other girls on the side
-Youre both at different parts of your lives
-Youre way more mature than she is
Regardless of what I listed, you don't need to give her or yourself any reasons, and who gives a fvck if you "blind side her" haha. Men do what they want when they want, and if you just dont feel like being with this girl and dont want to commit, then break up with her. Simple as that. Who gives a sh*t about what she thinks, and even more, who gives a fvck if she feels like shes being "blind sided" outta nowhere when you tell her one day that you don't wanna be with her.
That whole "blind side" bullsh*t is just her trying to mentally prepare herself for the end of the relationship, and also her trying to make sure she dumps you first, and not the other way around.
cavedweller
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If you are getting bored with her and the relationship break-up with her and move on...
If you are getting bored with her and the relationship break-up with her and move on...
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I'm pretty sure the whole reason he posted this is because he DOESN'T want to be a **** about it. Just do it and say you're sorry and you're not trying to **** her over but it's just not gonna work out. Simple as that. You don't have to be a douche about it.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.