breaking up is hard to do

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Ok, I have found that my relationship of nine months is at the point of termination. So my problem lies in the fact that this girl is really attached and i want to let her down as easy as possible. Her prom is in the next couple of week so i am not going to do it yet, since she as already bought a dress, but never the less the relationship is over, i have lready quit calling as much as i used to and slacked of on the time i see her........I just want a smooth break up and wondered if you all had any ideas.
Thanks for any help that is provied.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Good luck, since shes so attatched itll break her. Do what you gotta do.

 

[LikRetsam]

Post a detailed message about your relationship if you want real help please. Give us the whole story.

 

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Well there hasn't been much to the relationship besides her become way to attached. I wasn't planning on doing anything for at least a couple of weeks but the Sh!t hit the fan tonight and she ended up crying for two hours and her comments being, "I rather go on not knowing if you love me, than go on with out you.."
So i told her i thought it would be best if she just found someone who loved her as much as she loved them. So she replied with, "But i Love you i don't want to love anybody else." Part of me wanted to say grow up you are only 17 you have the rest of your life to find sombody........In conclusion i convenced her when stop seeing each other, but just go back to the "talking" stage which i plan to just let dwendel off. That way maybe she won't have to be locked up. anyway please tell what you think....

 

[UniqueSoul]

This kinda **** is way too hot to be talked from one point of view only.
---While being with somebody for a quite long time, you become responsible for that person no matter what kinda feelings have evolved towards him/her. Cos being close friends is about caring for each other, making sure that your friend doesn't experience pain, sadness and other negative feelings (that's one of the reasons why friends are being called FRIENDS, isn't it?).
But when your gf/bf seems to have developed much stronger feelings towards you that you feel for him/her, the situation gets a very uneasy flavour of crap (sorry for such rude comparisions). That doesn't mean that a way thinking called "Oh, she feels a completely different way that I do. Hmmh... Isn't this whole **** her own damn problem. I didn't ask her to start loving me, after all. To hell with these sobbing *****. I got my own ****ing life, which IS MY LIFE, WHICH BELONGS TO ME ONLY, NOT HER. **** ya'll!" shouldn't be developed, but man, you're ruining her. It's you who decided to cut things out, and it ain't a big problem of yours, but saying "IT'S OVA FOR GOOD" doesn't give you the right to leave your friends in pain. Yes, she's gonna deal with that in the long run, but hey, she needs your support. As a friend, at least. If you feel that things are really over, they have to be given a final finishing. For the both of you. This pain is SO ****ing hard to overcome, and YOU really gotta make the end as smoother and not escallated as you can.
Even if it ain't the feelings that YOU feel.