"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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breaking the ice on the dance floor

Pathgen

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I've been going out to bars and clubs the last couple of weeks. I've been having a lot of fun and like to dance. Anyhow, I always get these looks from girls, sometimes they are tense and sometimes they are really sexy. What they all have in common though is that they fade away when I don't do anything.

I recognize that they are probably attracted to me, but I don't know the next step. If a girl gives you a look do you just go dance with her. Asking her to dance seems weak, but doing nothing is getting me no where. Actually asking her to dance seems dumb, since we are already dancing. My question is what do you guys do when you are in that situation or what would you do if you were.

It literally takes 8 seconds then the girls seem to act like you had your chance, and they don't act interested anymore.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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PDubb75

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What about something along the lines of "Don't worry, I'll try not to completely show you up with my unbelievable moves" and just start dancing with her?
 

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Hold the eye contact, extend your hand out and reach for hers. Give her a fun twirl while pulling her closer to you. Easiest, simplest & most effective ice breaker I've used on the dance floor.
 

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Social_Leper said:
Ditto. You don't even need to speak. Actually trying to start a conversation in the middle of the dance floor can actually work against you. Seriously though how often are girls in the nucleus of the dance floor really going to be looking for a long winded conversation.
Agreed, afterwards see if she'll come back to a less noisy part of the club with you so you guys can get to know eachother.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Masculinity

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I agree with Don Wha. Just keep dancing and having fun and when you get that look (I know exactly what look you mean), grab her by the hand and start a "dancing competition." Bust out a move (cool one preferably), and then let her battle you back. I usually do a silly move and they start smiling and a few minutes later, BAM! number close.
 

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Another open and shut case for Judge nismo.

1. Get on the dance floor (Don't stare at that sh*t.)

2. There's no need to say sh*t, so just dance by a girl confidently. Who gives a f**k if you can't dance. I can't! But I copy moves from video games and music videos.

3. Grab the girl's hand and evolve that into a twirl or a salsa. Or challenge her to a little dance off.

4. Now that she's into you, get the digits or kiss close.

5. Take pdub's advice too!

6. Don't use a goddamn pickup line. DON'T!!!

Case closed. Have fun on the floor!
 

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Don Wha said:
Hold the eye contact, extend your hand out and reach for hers. Give her a fun twirl while pulling her closer to you. Easiest, simplest & most effective ice breaker I've used on the dance floor.

I agree. This works fellas. I either do this, or i would dance right next to them as if i was giving them a little booty bump. They will laugh and eventually start a mini dance battle.


See them later at the bar and i ask them:

Me: We should go out
Her: Sorry i have a boyfriend
Me: I have a fish
Her: Huh?
Me: Oh, i thought we were talking about things that don't matter.
Her: She laughs and then buys you a drink.

hahaha. ;)

Hey Don Wha, what part of San Diego? I'm located in Chula Vista.
 
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