You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The Assistant said:He may be a criminal NOW,
But 5-7 years ago when he wrote his advice, he was simply a normal guy in his 20's who was having sex with ALOT of different girls -
To be fair, what exactly could she have done to warrant getting shot in face? If she was screaming like a banshee and charging at him with a knife, I'd cut him some slack . . but that's a pretty big leap of faith for an truly unbiased mind to make.As if the man is supposed to stand still and do nothing NO MATTER WHAT A WOMAN DOES.
I have to agree with The Assistant. Gunnys Sexual State technique changed things a lot for me. Despite some people saying women can't read minds, 99.9% of them can definitely pick up on vibes.The Assistant said:He may be a criminal NOW,
But 5-7 years ago when he wrote his advice, he was simply a normal guy in his 20's who was having sex with ALOT of different girls - and he gave advice on how to do it - sexual state, isolation, persistance, and supreme confidence.
NOBODY should use this shooting incident as a way to downgrade his advice (which I myself applied dozens and dozens of times to perfection).
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Well playedJitterbug said:Gunwitch being an ugly psychotic criminal obviously disqualifies everything he has ever written about seducing women. Because as we all know by now, psychotic criminals simply can't get laid to save their lives. Right?
Dude, you are acting like you know what happened. That's worse than any person on this site spouting any theory about women. He very well could get 10 years; but until more of what happened comes out - let's hold off on assumptions.JT7890 said:I have NO IDEA how any attorney of Gunwitch is going to convince a Judge that he was under severe attack. It's already been concluded by the police that Gunwitch ASSAULTED the girl with a handgun, meaning, this was not self defense. Its assault and battery and he's going to be in prison for a minute. If he's out in less than 10 years I will be surprised.
He lived in that neighborhood with his brother.JT7890 said:Gunwitch wasn't one of the bottom of the barrel gurus. Gunwitch was pretty up there and he had a lot of books, websites, and speaking engagements he did surrounding this. Now, maybe he pissed all his money away? I don't know, but I wouldn't see HOW he would not have been in a middle class level of income which means he did not have to stay "in the ghetto." Maybe the reports are true, maybe he was a drug dealer, and that would make sense as to why he would spend alot of time in "those bad neighborhoods," I'm not sure.
Because some guys are more successful with women than others and have a lot more experience?JT7890 said:My question is what gives you the right to create a theory? Because you WRITE well? How can a person make theories on women to even begin with? That's my question?
I can't look at a woman and tell you how it's going to be when you approach her, how it's going to be when you kiss her, when you fvck her, when you date her, when you marry her, or when you have kids.JT7890 said:To be honest, women are so different, vast, and random, I don't know how ANY GUY can honestly say I have women figured out so much that I can make a "theory" to sum them all up.
Well, they get alot of marriage proposals. That may or may not come with sex.Jitterbug said:Gunwitch being an ugly psychotic criminal obviously disqualifies everything he has ever written about seducing women. Because as we all know by now, psychotic criminals simply can't get laid to save their lives. Right?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Just got an email from Gunwitch. He told me that on second thought he has been going a little overboard with the negs lately and he suggests that we moderate them just a little. Firearms are now considered excessive.JT7890 said:Anybody got any updates on this one? What's up with all of these psychos shooting women in the face lately?![]()
You're right, on RSD the posters sound like they nearly worship the instructors, real fanboy stuff. Like you say, they have some good stuff, but don't get sucked into the vortex.That's why I like this site. It is more level-headed and balanced than most. Most usually have an over-arching theme that can turn into something resembling a religion or cult. Look at RSD. Very close ties to Buddhist thinking, Tolle worship, etc
Is that good or bad? Are you talking Danzig ala Misfits, or Danzig solo?Rollo Tomassi said:I always thought of Gunwitch as the Glen Danzig of PUA.
It's always important to consider sources.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Hey, Jimmy...what's your home address, man? Just curious.BigJimbo said:I think I will go thank an American soldier for protecting the American way of life