"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Breaking it off

LuckyDevil6

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Alright.. so i've had a girlfriend for about a month now.. but recently shes been getting on my nerves, shes been so negative, and basically isn't what i'm still looking for..

So my question is, how could i go about breaking up with her?
Is there another way to start this conversation beside.. "We need to talk" ? :rolleyes:

I was thinking saying something about how the relationship isn't what i am looking for right now, and how my feelings aren't as strong... Any ideas are appreciated :D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The.Nice.Guy

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Originally posted by LuckyDevil6

So my question is, how could i go about breaking up with her?
Is there another way to start this conversation beside.. "We need to talk" ? :rolleyes:
theres someone else :p

explain to her shes been acting like a brat recently and thats just not good enough for you! slam down the authority
 

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Read what you wrote man. You already answered your own question. BY that I mean....


but recently shes been getting on my nerves, shes been so negative, and basically isn't what i'm still looking for..
Can't say I blame you. i wouldn't want to be around someone that was negative toward me or themselves.

Stop trying to bring the news to her from a different perspective and just tell her how you feel about the whole situation. Rather you give her another chance or dump her is up to you.


Just my two cents...:eek:


tootles....
 

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Dump her. It's not that hard. Just say I don't want to let you down, but I just want to be friends (like that'll ever happen).
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Is there another way to start this conversation beside.. "We need to talk" ?
Not that I can think of. "We need to talk" will do just fine. Then, Tell her how shes a negative ***** and is getting on your nerves. In nicer words of course.:) But make it clear that something has to change if she wants you around.
Tell her how she can improve. one of 3 things will happen
1. Shell dump you. Thats what you wanted, anyway?
2. Shell improve.
3. Youll dump her.
Either way, you win.
Its easy to dump her after that.
"Its over."
You did all the talking already.
 

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Must you really ask this question?

"This isnt working out."
 

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Originally posted by Kidd
Must you really ask this question?
Yeah :p .. i couldn't figure out what to really say.. i don't have many bf/gf relationships like this... :cool:
 

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Quit it with the excuses. No need to justify eather.

I no longer wish to persue this relationship.
 

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YESSS i did it.. so happy to be single again.... guess i just have to go out and start getting more girls now :D

Every girl I see tomorrow will be a primary target :)

Feeling AMAZING. :D :D :D :D :D
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Originally posted by LuckyDevil6
YESSS i did it.. so happy to be single again.... guess i just have to go out and start getting more girls now :D

Every girl I see tomorrow will be a primary target :)

Feeling AMAZING. :D :D :D :D :D



PROUD of yea! go get that exp. that you want lol




Later....
 

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There's no proper way of breaking up. It always and will always hurt...no matter how nicely you say it. Just stop communicating and seeing her. I hope she's not a psycho and starts stalking you man =) But I admire your maturity at your age. Most guys will stay at a bad relationship rather than leaving it just to say they have a girl. I suggest that you go to askmen.com and start reading doc love's articles
 

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Isn't askmen.com full of AFCs? I've never been over there but from what i've heard they promote a lot of not-so-manly behaviour. I'd stick around here if you want to improve yourself...
 

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Doc love is a ****ing idiot.
 
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