"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Breaking it off

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Alright.. so i've had a girlfriend for about a month now.. but recently shes been getting on my nerves, shes been so negative, and basically isn't what i'm still looking for..

So my question is, how could i go about breaking up with her?
Is there another way to start this conversation beside.. "We need to talk" ? :rolleyes:

I was thinking saying something about how the relationship isn't what i am looking for right now, and how my feelings aren't as strong... Any ideas are appreciated :D
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The.Nice.Guy

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Originally posted by LuckyDevil6

So my question is, how could i go about breaking up with her?
Is there another way to start this conversation beside.. "We need to talk" ? :rolleyes:
theres someone else :p

explain to her shes been acting like a brat recently and thats just not good enough for you! slam down the authority
 

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Read what you wrote man. You already answered your own question. BY that I mean....


but recently shes been getting on my nerves, shes been so negative, and basically isn't what i'm still looking for..
Can't say I blame you. i wouldn't want to be around someone that was negative toward me or themselves.

Stop trying to bring the news to her from a different perspective and just tell her how you feel about the whole situation. Rather you give her another chance or dump her is up to you.


Just my two cents...:eek:


tootles....
 

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Dump her. It's not that hard. Just say I don't want to let you down, but I just want to be friends (like that'll ever happen).
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Is there another way to start this conversation beside.. "We need to talk" ?
Not that I can think of. "We need to talk" will do just fine. Then, Tell her how shes a negative ***** and is getting on your nerves. In nicer words of course.:) But make it clear that something has to change if she wants you around.
Tell her how she can improve. one of 3 things will happen
1. Shell dump you. Thats what you wanted, anyway?
2. Shell improve.
3. Youll dump her.
Either way, you win.
Its easy to dump her after that.
"Its over."
You did all the talking already.
 

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Must you really ask this question?

"This isnt working out."
 

LuckyDevil6

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Originally posted by Kidd
Must you really ask this question?
Yeah :p .. i couldn't figure out what to really say.. i don't have many bf/gf relationships like this... :cool:
 

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Quit it with the excuses. No need to justify eather.

I no longer wish to persue this relationship.
 

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YESSS i did it.. so happy to be single again.... guess i just have to go out and start getting more girls now :D

Every girl I see tomorrow will be a primary target :)

Feeling AMAZING. :D :D :D :D :D
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by LuckyDevil6
YESSS i did it.. so happy to be single again.... guess i just have to go out and start getting more girls now :D

Every girl I see tomorrow will be a primary target :)

Feeling AMAZING. :D :D :D :D :D



PROUD of yea! go get that exp. that you want lol




Later....
 

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There's no proper way of breaking up. It always and will always hurt...no matter how nicely you say it. Just stop communicating and seeing her. I hope she's not a psycho and starts stalking you man =) But I admire your maturity at your age. Most guys will stay at a bad relationship rather than leaving it just to say they have a girl. I suggest that you go to askmen.com and start reading doc love's articles
 

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Isn't askmen.com full of AFCs? I've never been over there but from what i've heard they promote a lot of not-so-manly behaviour. I'd stick around here if you want to improve yourself...
 

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Doc love is a ****ing idiot.
 
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